Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 08:26     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
It is really strange that so many women on dcum are unable to see their bodies aging. Or is that just an act?

It was only a week or two ago that someone in their late 40s thought she could attract a millionaire. Where do people get these wild ideas?
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 07:56     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.


40 is old. Stop living in denial. The only way looked your best at 40 is if you were fat before that. 40 year olds can look OK at a distance, but once you get close...
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 07:03     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Pp here. Yeah and I don’t think the 45yo is sleeping with 20 year olds. I’m sure it is possible. I am 47 with a 17yo so the idea of some cougar trying to sleep with my son or his friends sounds gross.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 07:01     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.


It's delusional posts like these that keep me on DCUM. Thank you!


I know more than 1 woman who has had this experience - the entire list. It sounds like it's exaggerated but it's really not. These are skinny, active women with college+ degrees and good jobs.


Well, as a thin, pretty, grad school educated white woman in DC, surrounded by other pretty, thin, educated white women, this is delusional. I don't know a single woman that is in her late 40s dating a 20 year old. And honestly, the idea is gross af. Most of us have sons that age.


I’m the same age.

I have a friend who is twice divorced and hangs out with other single women. None of them have kids and all have had plastic surgery. She has two friends who live sex and the city type lives so they may sleep with an athlete or older man. They can’t keep a relationship but can easily get someone to sleep with them. I don’t think it is anything to envy.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 21:44     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
If you are a woman, you would be amazed at what your female friends who live alone or travel alone don't tell you.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 12:13     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:5 to 10 years younger is not someone in their 20s. I do know people in their late 40s who have dated people in their mid-30s though.


I was responding to the PP that claims 49 yo women are dating 20 yo D1 athletes. It isn't happening.

Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 12:08     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
5 to 10 years younger is not someone in their 20s. I do know people in their late 40s who have dated people in their mid-30s though.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:53     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.


It's delusional posts like these that keep me on DCUM. Thank you!


I know more than 1 woman who has had this experience - the entire list. It sounds like it's exaggerated but it's really not. These are skinny, active women with college+ degrees and good jobs.


Well, as a thin, pretty, grad school educated white woman in DC, surrounded by other pretty, thin, educated white women, this is delusional. I don't know a single woman that is in her late 40s dating a 20 year old. And honestly, the idea is gross af. Most of us have sons that age.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:34     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.


It's delusional posts like these that keep me on DCUM. Thank you!


I know more than 1 woman who has had this experience - the entire list. It sounds like it's exaggerated but it's really not. These are skinny, active women with college+ degrees and good jobs.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:32     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.


It's delusional posts like these that keep me on DCUM. Thank you!
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 11:28     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Not on apps but my best friend is. She's in her late 40s but looks a lot younger.

She gets tons of attention mostly from men in their 30s and early 40s but also shockingly (to me) late 20s. She will only date 30s to early 50s though.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 09:27     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and very overweight for my height. Getting likes or clicks from men on my profile is easy but maybe less than 10% of them would carry a consistent conversation and less than 2% of them would be willing to meet on a date. Again, finding sex is easy but not very meaningful for me so dating has to lead somewhere and I just don't date because of sex. I am having very very hard time in finding someone who would be interested in LTR. My last relationship was 3+ years ago and now I see that to be much better than what I am getting out there now. Maybe I would have tried harder in my previous relationship but who knew. anyway, finding any way of LTR is extremely difficult at my age though not impossible.

Why is it more difficult now for you than a few years ago?


Not sure but maybe it has to do with how I look. Gained some weight and that’s what makes it challenging I think. I am more than 185+ lbs at 5’3”


Why don’t you work on yourself?

I’m around your height. I weigh 130 and 5’4” and do not feel good about my weight. I feel overweight. Sorry, 185 at same height is not just a little overweight. I feel chubby around my face, arms and waist at 130. Trying to eat better, run and walk more and do more weightlifting this new year.


I do go to gym but also have a few medical issues going on including Type 2 and Hashimoto.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 09:06     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.


100% this! Perimenopause will come for you. Enjoy it now.


This hype about perimenopause and commercial ads all over Internet are not making women any favors. Peri or not, women can look great at any age if they workout, don’t drink, and take care of skin. My mom had a hysterectomy in mid 40s with her ovaries removed. She used sunscreen and went to the gym from late 30s, and had fantastic wrinkles skin well into her mid 60s. She had boyfriends as well and no issues dating (didn’t want to cohabit or remarry as men her age are much slower ).
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 09:04     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:I am 48. I date 30s men. I will never remarry.

Do you want to live in sin? Please reconsider
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 08:39     Subject: If you're on old and in your forties
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and very overweight for my height. Getting likes or clicks from men on my profile is easy but maybe less than 10% of them would carry a consistent conversation and less than 2% of them would be willing to meet on a date. Again, finding sex is easy but not very meaningful for me so dating has to lead somewhere and I just don't date because of sex. I am having very very hard time in finding someone who would be interested in LTR. My last relationship was 3+ years ago and now I see that to be much better than what I am getting out there now. Maybe I would have tried harder in my previous relationship but who knew. anyway, finding any way of LTR is extremely difficult at my age though not impossible.

Why is it more difficult now for you than a few years ago?


Not sure but maybe it has to do with how I look. Gained some weight and that’s what makes it challenging I think. I am more than 185+ lbs at 5’3”


Why don’t you work on yourself?

I’m around your height. I weigh 130 and 5’4” and do not feel good about my weight. I feel overweight. Sorry, 185 at same height is not just a little overweight. I feel chubby around my face, arms and waist at 130. Trying to eat better, run and walk more and do more weightlifting this new year.