Anonymous
Post 01/10/2026 00:14     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Anonymous wrote:Nothing. You’re not going.

This, it’s not a wedding.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2026 00:11     Subject: Re:How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Technically if you are not attending a party you are not expected to provide a birthday 🎁 gift however if you choose to provide one that is a nice gesture to do.

In this case, even $20 would be a nice gesture.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 23:24     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
I would say nothing... unless plans for the trip were made based on you going, and then you had to back out for some reason. I wouldn't ask other people to pay more then they had originally planned. If that's the case, I would honor whatever you had planned on paying. But if you were never going to go, then you don't owe anything.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 23:02     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:None since you arent going. I would send a bottle of nice wine or champagne to a dinner instead.


+1

+2 this is the correct answer
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 22:46     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?

Is anyone going on the trip? Like is the trip itself a gift for say parents 50th anniversary or is this a girl trip?. For some like anniversary gift you contribute however it's split for girls trip nothing.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:42     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Anonymous wrote:This is weird. Why would you give anything if you're not going?


This
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:41     Subject: Re:How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Zero. Why would you contribute?
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:39     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Uh, none?
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:39     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
I assume none of the 4 are going on the trip, correct? It's just like 4 people coming together to pay for the trip? My siblings and I do this for our parents. I would also consider chipping in for a trip if the person needed this trip for some reason and can't afford it. But otherwise, I don't know how 4 people pay for someone else's trip. How much will the trip cost? 4K? 3K? Even 2K? I'd have to really feel strongly about this person to contribute even $500.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:37     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Nothing. You’re not going.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:35     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Anonymous wrote:Zero, I'd give my own gift or take them out to dinner


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:33     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Anonymous wrote:None since you arent going. I would send a bottle of nice wine or champagne to a dinner instead.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:31     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
This is weird. Why would you give anything if you're not going?
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:23     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many folks are contributing ?


4

First time I’ve ever dealt with people contributing for a trip so I don’t have a norm per se for this situation.

I did consider the amount of dinner as a few mentioned too. I wasn’t sure if that worked but glad to hear it can in these situations.


Oh, nothing if it's only 4 people. That's ridiculous. You give a gift card or find out if there's one small excursion you can pay for the birthday person.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2026 21:18     Subject: How much should you contribute toward the $2000 of the birthday person’s total if you aren’t attending?
Anonymous wrote:How many folks are contributing ?


4

First time I’ve ever dealt with people contributing for a trip so I don’t have a norm per se for this situation.

I did consider the amount of dinner as a few mentioned too. I wasn’t sure if that worked but glad to hear it can in these situations.