Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'10" and love it. I feel so lucky to be tall. I am sorry you see your height as such as negative. I don't think it has to be that way and would suggest putting some effort or therapy into reframing. I have never wanted to be small. There are so many obvious and practical reasons why it's better to be tall and strong. I like being approximately the same height and size as romantic partners.

True, very few men have lifted me off the ground but I don't see that happening a whole lot in life for anyone. It's just not a significant factor. Maybe watch old video clips of Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman...

+1

There are huge professional advantages of being a taller woman - this wasn’t obvious to me until I was older and entering the workforce. I love being able to literally feel like I am on the same eye-to-eye level with the dudes at my work and I think extra height commands more respect.

It took me a while to get here mentally, though. I do have a history of an ED but, like another poster above, most of that is attributable to severe anxiety and self-esteem issues that needed professional attention (my mom is super short but has the same issues). You have to always find a way to work with whatever frame you have and see the positives.

I did competitive ballet growing up which compounded some of the early ED issues but I relapsed later even after quitting ballet and I just always have to manage the underlying anxiety to stay well. I’m actually glad now that I did ballet because it helps me carry myself upright and confidently as a taller woman.

I hear what you're saying OP but would also suggest that society is very judgemental and rude in general to overweight/obesity, and that is unfortunately considered a "problem" in a woman at any height.

That said, there is real truth in how confidence and ease is attractive, and doing whatever therapy, yoga, weight-lifting etc you need until you get to the place of feeling body-positive is really worth it.

Count me in as another woman who loves being tall. I love clothes and I do think aside from some pants hemming issues they work better on taller women. I love having long legs. And yes when I gain 5 lbs it’s not as noticeable.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are we supposed to be sitting on guy's laps? I missed that dating memo.

God, I hate sitting on anyone's lap. Not something I've ever wanted to do.

Yeah, Never. I still remember being 16 or 17 and my grandma insisting I sit on her lap in the car when there weren’t any seats left, I didn’t want to.
OP, decenter men from your life and focus on loving yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think so. A tall woman can gain or lose 10 pounds without it being too noticeable. You can see 5 pounds on a short woman easily.

This, its way better to be tall.
My mom is 5'9" and has gained and lost the same 30 lbs all my life, bouncing around from 160 to 190 and yet never really looks all that different. Her butt gets a bit bigger or smaller. I'm 5'2" and if I gain even 5 lbs it's very obvious. I'd look like a blimp if I packed on 30 lbs.

Anonymous wrote:Are we supposed to be sitting on guy's laps? I missed that dating memo.

God, I hate sitting on anyone's lap. Not something I've ever wanted to do.

I imagine that eating disorders are common in all heights of women except for women who live in places where food is not plentifully available

I’ve had all the common eating disorders - anorexia, bulimia, morbid obesity. Altogether they took up about 30 years of my life until I more or less got them under control. They were ultimately an unhealthy expression of severe, debilitating anxiety.

Once I eliminated the sources of that anxiety, and got entirely focused on myself for a while … the obsession with food mostly evaporated.

The ironic thing is that once I finally got my weight and health under control and looked the best I ever did, I didn’t have any more places to go or people to see.

Most of the people I’ve known in my life never even knew I lost 100lbs. And still don’t.

I don’t think so. A tall woman can gain or lose 10 pounds without it being too noticeable. You can see 5 pounds on a short woman easily.

Are we supposed to be sitting on guy's laps? I missed that dating memo.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes OP! Short girls can carry extra weight better than tall girls. When we have extra weight, we just look big. Sigh.

In the flip side, when tall girls are thin, they can look quite striking and really command their presence. When short girls are thin, they just look small. They’re not called striking or really seen, they’re just called “tiny” and overlooked.

This is not true. When a short woman gains weight it’s not as well distributed and they look heavier. They also have to eat a lot fewer calories to maintain weight.

Exactly.

Who wants to be "dainty" ffs?
Is this some tradwife thing? Did yo want to be a cheerleader?

Tall is better.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'10" and love it. I feel so lucky to be tall. I am sorry you see your height as such as negative. I don't think it has to be that way and would suggest putting some effort or therapy into reframing. I have never wanted to be small. There are so many obvious and practical reasons why it's better to be tall and strong. I like being approximately the same height and size as romantic partners.

True, very few men have lifted me off the ground but I don't see that happening a whole lot in life for anyone. It's just not a significant factor. Maybe watch old video clips of Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman...

+1 to all of this. I’m 5’9” and never once have worried about how cute I may or may not look sitting in a man’s lap. My teen DD is 5’11” and also loves being tall. Learn to love yourself, however you are.

Anonymous wrote:Yes OP! Short girls can carry extra weight better than tall girls. When we have extra weight, we just look big. Sigh.

In the flip side, when tall girls are thin, they can look quite striking and really command their presence. When short girls are thin, they just look small. They’re not called striking or really seen, they’re just called “tiny” and overlooked.

This is not true. When a short woman gains weight it’s not as well distributed and they look heavier. They also have to eat a lot fewer calories to maintain weight.

Move to the Netherlands. Most women will be your height.

I'm 5'10" and love it. I feel so lucky to be tall. I am sorry you see your height as such as negative. I don't think it has to be that way and would suggest putting some effort or therapy into reframing. I have never wanted to be small. There are so many obvious and practical reasons why it's better to be tall and strong. I like being approximately the same height and size as romantic partners.

True, very few men have lifted me off the ground but I don't see that happening a whole lot in life for anyone. It's just not a significant factor. Maybe watch old video clips of Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman...