Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 07:33     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
How old are your kids?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 07:27     Subject: Re:Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.


Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.


Stop it with your judgement. I'm the PP who had a first at 25 and tried to get a third in my 40s. I can afford it, and I have all my wits about me. People are more capable than you think.



You think this world with Anti Vaxers leading the way is a great place to bring a child?

Third in your 40's? So when that kid is 20 you are in your 60s fabulous parenting.

Having a kid is not only about money.

You are selfish.


Women have been having babies on their 40s for centuries.

Both my dad and his mother were born to women in their mid-40s. Before birth control this was incredibly common because women just had kids until they couldn't anymore. It's weird to suddenly decide it's selfish now?


+1,000
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 00:50     Subject: Re:Parents of 4+ kids
I'm 57:

1st & 2nd kids (twins) - 24
3rd kid - 26
4th kid - 29 (almost 30)

My mom also had 4 kids; she had them at ages 23, 25, 28, and 30. My DH's mom had 4 kids; she had them at ages 27, 30, 31, and 32.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2025 00:00     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:Hmm. I was 44 when I had my last and 7th miscarriage. Does that count? Would have loved an actual baby, of course. Older kids were 19 and 14 at the time.


Same PP for me and many others. I was 39 woth NY 6th miscarriage that almost took my uterus. My hail Mary was a reproductive immunologist (Dr. Jubiz) and at 40 I had #3. There was zero discussion on a 4th. I was done and so was my body.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 23:58     Subject: Re:Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.


Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.


Stop it with your judgement. I'm the PP who had a first at 25 and tried to get a third in my 40s. I can afford it, and I have all my wits about me. People are more capable than you think.



You think this world with Anti Vaxers leading the way is a great place to bring a child?

Third in your 40's? So when that kid is 20 you are in your 60s fabulous parenting.

Having a kid is not only about money.

You are selfish.


Women have been having babies on their 40s for centuries.

Both my dad and his mother were born to women in their mid-40s. Before birth control this was incredibly common because women just had kids until they couldn't anymore. It's weird to suddenly decide it's selfish now?
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 23:56     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was 47. Older kids were 10,12,14. Didn’t expect to get pregnant again but it was a happy surprise! Baby perfectly healthy.


You were lucky. Do you not know how lucky you were?

The stupidity on this thread is staggering.


DP -- so you think all babies conceived naturally in one's 40s should be aborted? I don't understand your point here.

I'm 45 and probably would have an abortion if I somehow got pregnant now, but it would be a hard choice. I would never judge anyone for making another one.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 22:43     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Poster at 22:42 here.
Sorry, I misread your question.

I was 30; other kids were 6, 4, and 23 months
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 22:42     Subject: Re:Parents of 4+ kids
1st kid-24
2nd kid-26
3rd kid-29 (just 2 weeks after turning 29)
4th kid-30 (just 2 weeks before turning 31)
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 21:02     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yet another thread where rich old ladies think their money and their selfishness somehow trump biology.


+1.



Wait, what do you mean? I don’t think many of us used ivf to have 4th babies in our 40s. Biology trumped us!
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 21:00     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:I was 47. Older kids were 10,12,14. Didn’t expect to get pregnant again but it was a happy surprise! Baby perfectly healthy.


You were lucky. Do you not know how lucky you were?

The stupidity on this thread is staggering.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:58     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:Yet another thread where rich old ladies think their money and their selfishness somehow trump biology.


+1.

Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:58     Subject: Re:Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.


Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.


Stop it with your judgement. I'm the PP who had a first at 25 and tried to get a third in my 40s. I can afford it, and I have all my wits about me. People are more capable than you think.



You think this world with Anti Vaxers leading the way is a great place to bring a child?

Third in your 40's? So when that kid is 20 you are in your 60s fabulous parenting.

Having a kid is not only about money.

You are selfish.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:55     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Yet another thread where rich old ladies think their money and their selfishness somehow trump biology.
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:46     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
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Anonymous
Post 12/29/2025 20:46     Subject: Parents of 4+ kids
Anonymous wrote:Hmm. I was 44 when I had my last and 7th miscarriage. Does that count? Would have loved an actual baby, of course. Older kids were 19 and 14 at the time.


No