Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 17:43     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?

Women say they don't compete with other women for men. However, given the amount of effort they put to find the right partner, it seems as if they are competing for men.

It’s definitely a competition. Bragging rights, peacocking, winning… Whatever you want to call it.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 14:49     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Because they are choosing a father for their children
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 14:47     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A good man is am incredibly scarce resource.


Agree, and this is why so many of them end up being reused and recycled.


yes or smart ones keep the good ones around and treat them well.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 14:46     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Based on the divorce stories here, not enough effort is put into finding a partner.


Or too much effort. Given the percentages of a divorce on a long enough timeline, women might be better off spending minimal effort selecting a mate (since the odds are essentially equivalent to flipping a coin) and more of their effort building out their careers, communities, and personal happiness.


But it is not what they want. A lot of them want a companion and partner that they can trust and be comfortable with.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 09:26     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:Based on the divorce stories here, not enough effort is put into finding a partner.


Or too much effort. Given the percentages of a divorce on a long enough timeline, women might be better off spending minimal effort selecting a mate (since the odds are essentially equivalent to flipping a coin) and more of their effort building out their careers, communities, and personal happiness.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 09:24     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:A good man is am incredibly scarce resource.


Agree, and this is why so many of them end up being reused and recycled.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 08:00     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you always ask such dumb questions?


As someone with a child on the spectrum, I feel pretty sure OP is autistic. They are genuinely curious and don’t perceive how it comes across.


Can we have a thread without autism bring mentioned lol?

Not PP, but I'm glad it is talked about finally. I lived 10 years with someone not knowing that they have ASD. I would have never even dated them and definitely not had a kid with them.
It's not an easy thing to recognize as they mask it, but I don't want it in my life.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 07:37     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you always ask such dumb questions?


As someone with a child on the spectrum, I feel pretty sure OP is autistic. They are genuinely curious and don’t perceive how it comes across.


Can we have a thread without autism bring mentioned lol?


You suck, lol.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 01:50     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
A good man is am incredibly scarce resource.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 01:23     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Who you marry is the 100% most important factor in whether you will be happy in life. I don’t care how rich you are or what college you went to; if you hate your spouse, there’s a part of you that will always be miserable. Divorce is almost always costly and messy.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2025 00:02     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?

Women say they don't compete with other women for men. However, given the amount of effort they put to find the right partner, it seems as if they are competing for men.


The costs of you choose wrong are so much higher for women.


why? Men ended up losing family too and most common for them to pay spousal and child support.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2025 23:38     Subject: Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why do you always ask such dumb questions?


As someone with a child on the spectrum, I feel pretty sure OP is autistic. They are genuinely curious and don’t perceive how it comes across.


Can we have a thread without autism bring mentioned lol?