It would depend on where we’d have to live.

If you live below your means and are not overstretched, remote work for $120k is the way to go.

Anonymous wrote:Remote - every day every way. No comparison.

This.

Anonymous wrote:This is so interesting because I actually have this dilemma except it’s regarding part time work. I’m a physician who can make 240k full time but with my little kids I’m thinking of going part time and making around 120k. I’m finding it hard to supplement their education with full time work. Interesting that you all seem sure about the 240k

I said 240K, but my kids are older now. I see your dilemma and worked part time when they were younger.

In office; I need the money and actually don't mind in office.

240k if I wad earlier in my career and needed to build capital.

120, and I only live a few blocks from the office. I value efficiency.

Remote - every day every way. No comparison.

I have this choice and choose remote but only because it is really, really valuable to our family to have one parent working remote with good flexibility. It basically enabled us to have a sane and pleasant family life instead of constant stress.

If we had more resources (nearby family, money for part time nanny, better schools, etc.) I'd go back to the office. But sadly even doubling my salary would not enable us to afford the resources we'd need. The added childcare and household help would cost more. So it would be a lifestyle downgrade, especially for our kids who would spend every afternoon in bare bones aftercare and possibly have to give up some activities because no one would be available to take them on time. Also just less time with loving caregiver in general, more takeout and prepared foods, less help with homework, less organized house, more rigid and stressful schedule.

This is so interesting because I actually have this dilemma except it’s regarding part time work. I’m a physician who can make 240k full time but with my little kids I’m thinking of going part time and making around 120k. I’m finding it hard to supplement their education with full time work. Interesting that you all seem sure about the 240k

Anonymous wrote:$120k for me and I would invest 50% of it.
Commute and long hours at work are my biggest regrets.

Ok so 120k is 80k after taxes. How on earth are you paying a mortgage/rent, eating, driving a car, and doing anything for entertainment if you live in anyplace other than super rural Kansas. It costs more than 40k to live in like Toledo and have a quality of life.

In my.house, it depends who is the default parent and who is the breadwinner. My spouse would definitely take the in person one. If my spouse is already in person then I would need to look for something more flexible, so I would take the remote offer.

I already basically made this decision (except it was more like $150k vs $300k and a significant decrease in hours and stress as well) by changing my career path and it’s been worth it. But my kids are very little and my DH makes quite a bit more.

I don’t even earn the lower amount at my in person job so I’d definitely take the $240k in person.