I have 9 kids (6 girls, 3 boys), oldest is 27 and no grandkids yet..

Anonymous wrote:Our kids only 20 yo, but I would be fine without no grandkids - happy full life as is.

My DH on the other hand would love to "relive" his childhood again (like he did with our kids

It’s a special relationship. My grandmother doted on us in a completely different way than she raised my mom. My sister just became a grandmother and she is thrilled to have a little girl to do girl stuff with after having two sons.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP. Do you find yourself wishing you had had more kids, to increase the odds that at least one would choose to produce grandkids?

Spouse and I stopped at two but for various reasons might have been interested in having a third.

DP. We also stopped at two and will not have any grandkids. My parents had four and only two had grandkids so having more would have upped our odds. We couldn’t afford more. It is what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:We have two sons (18 and 22) and I would be completely fine with never being a grandparent.

Well yea because typically the grandparents on the son's side get the short end of the stick anyway.

That’s not how it turned out in our case. We moved to be near DH’s family. They got to celebrate the birthdays, graduations, births, school activities and have us nearby when they needed help in their senior years. My folks missed most of that.

Sorry, OP. Do you find yourself wishing you had had more kids, to increase the odds that at least one would choose to produce grandkids?

Spouse and I stopped at two but for various reasons might have been interested in having a third.

Our kids only 20 yo, but I would be fine without no grandkids - happy full life as is.

My DH on the other hand would love to "relive" his childhood again (like he did with our kids

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Anonymous wrote:Curios as to how not having grandkids changes the family structure?
My dad doesn’t interact much with his grandkids (mine and my sibling’s kids). I men’s it would have been good for him to be closer to them and more involved but ultimately he is just not capable of it for a bunch of reasons

I think they just mean a continuation of the family line?

It’s a lot more than that with normal families. Did you grow up with grandparents in your life?

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Anonymous wrote:You also won’t become a circus performer, a fighter pilot, or a cardiovascular surgeon. So what? You don’t get control over what other people do with their own reproductive systems.

Family is a lot more important than being a fighter pilot, moron.

Then OP can adopt some kids, or volunteer with some. It's not responsible for one person to have a baby so someone else can see it for a few hours each weekend at best, and brag about it to their friends. Again, you don't get to control what other people do with their reproductive systems.

That’s not what posters are saying at all.

Anonymous wrote:We have two sons (18 and 22) and I would be completely fine with never being a grandparent.

Well yea because typically the grandparents on the son's side get the short end of the stick anyway.

My brother and his wife never thought they'd be grandparents either and for years have been droning on and on about how you don't need grandkids and the world is to messed up for kids etc etc. Now one of their kids is pregnant and they're over the moon they're so happy.

We love being grandparents ourselves. They're all local. They make the family complete and dynamic. Especially the holidays!

We have two sons (18 and 22) and I would be completely fine with never being a grandparent.

I worry about this for us, too. Our son is serious with someone and hopefully will marry and procreate, but it'll be years till then. And our daughter is in her late 20s and hasn't found her person yet (and doesn't want to do it on her own).

You do realize there could be fertility issues or other matters at play here? I really hope my MIL isn’t saying/thinking these things about me

I am sad about the same thing. My kids are in their thirties, and only one is married. She and her husband have been married for 8 years and don't seem to be interested in having kids. Meanwhile my siblings are all grandparents, as are my friends. My heart aches for a grandbaby but there's nothing I can do. I understand, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Curios as to how not having grandkids changes the family structure?
My dad doesn’t interact much with his grandkids (mine and my sibling’s kids). I men’s it would have been good for him to be closer to them and more involved but ultimately he is just not capable of it for a bunch of reasons

I think they just mean a continuation of the family line?