Most of my friends are women. Some I've known well over 10 years and we've never dated or been intimate and never will. They are just fun people who I can confide in at times. I don't see how that is a red flag.

Platonic, non-ex female friends? Amazing. Great. Wonderful.

All sexual exes that he keeps around like a harem? Not cool. No thanks.

I think men with female friends are actually some of the best partners, but I wouldn't be comfortable if his only female friends are past flings.

Anonymous wrote:One of my friends has plenty of male friends but says it's easier to talk to his female friends. He's not wrong. When it's a bunch of dudes, they all just kinda sit there watching sports. We apparently make them talk. So I wouldn't rule him out if these are actual friends and not women he's trying to date.

+1 Both DH and DS (20) said the same. They like having female friends to talk to. Neither of them are boys boys, and neither are gay.

DS said they like hanging out with both for different reasons. DH is from Europe and doesn't connect with the typical American male. That's not to say he doesn't have male friends. He does, but most of the good male friends are also European.

When DH moved here, he happened to be on a team with mostly women, and as he was the lone foreigner, they included him in their lunch outings, etc. He's still friends with some of them after 30 years.

Anonymous wrote:Probably red. Makes me think he's way too flirty and/or gay.

You are way too insecure.

My son has mostly female friends, but has some close male friends as well. In his case, I think it is because he has a twin sister with whom he has always been very close and gravitated towards making female friends in college when they went to different universities. I think he also views/treats women as potential friends more than most other men for this reason.

This was me in my 20s. One such female friend introduced me to my wife. So I'm biased but don't see anything wrong with it.

Anonymous wrote:It means a lot less than anyone on DCUM thinks.

This!

It varied for me. I had mostly guy friends in high school and college, but after grad school and starting out in my career i had mostly female friends, it was kind of luck of the draw based on people I met at work, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Whore

Mostly, not a dealbreaker but I’d be curious to know how this came about and I would probably find it a bit off putting.

I have 2 male friends like this. 1 is gay. The other is in an open marriage and keeps extra ladies around, he’s not very attractive physically so I think his strategy is to friend attractive women and get them to trust him through his intelligence and success.

If you married a man with mostly women friends, how did it pan out? Dod they eventually cheat or came out of the closet?

I know a man like this. He was the oldest of 5 with 3 sisters. He's also a serial cheater and is on his 4th marriage. He always has a woman "waiting in the wings" and typically doesn't physically cheat (though sometimes does), but will line up one of these "friends" to be with before exiting his current relationship.

Women here. I had more male friends throughout my 20s. I'm 40 now and only 2 of those guys are left. One is a family friend and the second is a casual fling turned good friend. Our introverted personalities just mesh better. I prefer female companionship these days(in small doses).

I’m a man and prefer female friends to male friends because women are more loyal to their male friends and are generally not as dumb. I can’t stand red pilled manosphere bros or passive aggressive soy boys either. Men are lame as hell tbh.