Yes

Yes, DH has a motto that if you are asking if you should give, then let the answer be yes. I give $20 to Starbucks to tutors, teachers, aides, basically anyone who I rely on to help my kids.

Anonymous wrote:No, that is not the going rate. $90-130 for 45 minutes.

I’m in ny and the going rate here is higher. Anyway, I gave a gift card. Not 175 dollars, but what I felt I could afford (under a hundred dollars). We have a couple of tutors and therapists for my son who are expensive. It’s a lot for us financially and to be honest, I feel giving what we could afford for the holidays is totally fine. That number is going to be different for everyone.

We have three children. I contribute the suggested amount to class gifts for all of them for their teachers. My son with some special needs has two tutors/therapists who work with him 1:1 outside of school and I gave them each a gift card.

Anonymous wrote:I stopped giving gifts to teachers when my kids were in elementary school. Instead, I write heartfelt letters when I feel some have gone above and beyond. I applied the same to tutors when my kids were older. The exception is my kid's violin teachers, who we've know for years and years (she's had 2 in her life), and who receive small food gifts from us. But teachers or tutors that come and go... no.

Me again. It's not about whether someone can afford to give a Holiday bonus. It's about subtle considerations of class, on top of the fact that I don't really believe in offering Holiday bonuses. I am not in a profession where that happens, and no one in my circle is either, so this no doubt colors my thoughts on this. I have paid as much as $350/hr for a specialized AP Physics C tutor for one of my kids... and he certainly did not expect any monetary gifts from any of his families. At that level, the tutor is a respected professor with a PhD and he doesn't want to be treated like the help. I'm a research scientist. If I were to tutor someone on the side, I would be a little shocked to be given a tip! My kid's violin teacher charges $120/hr, like all violin teachers of that caliber. A little something for his well-appointed home, or treats for his kids, is what's socially appropriate. None of these people are trash collectors, who actually might need, and be grateful for, some financial supplement.

Not only is it acceptable to decline to participate in bonuses as a matter of principle, it is also imperative to understand the social dynamics at play.

I’m a tutor. I don’t expect gifts or tips (my life philosophy generally is that a gift is not meant to be an expected thing, especially between adults). I do love getting cards from clients, especially if the student designs the card or writes a note. I also appreciate the tips and gifts I receive from about a third of my clients.

No. I’m paying them $100/hr

Anonymous wrote:if it is a professional tutor running their own business, no tip. If it is a college or high school kid or a teacher making some extra money, yes, up to the cost of one session in cash or gift card. a card is always good.

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No, that is not the going rate. $90-130 for 45 minutes.

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Anonymous wrote:if you want you can give the cost of a lesson

Our tutor is 175 for 45 minutes. I’m definitely not giving the cost of a session.

Dumb enough to pay 175 for 45 minutes you are able to give a similarly dumb gift since clearly money is no object for you.

My kid has a reading disability and that’s the going rate for an OG tutor in our area.

if it is a professional tutor running their own business, no tip. If it is a college or high school kid or a teacher making some extra money, yes, up to the cost of one session in cash or gift card. a card is always good.

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Anonymous wrote:if you want you can give the cost of a lesson

Our tutor is 175 for 45 minutes. I’m definitely not giving the cost of a session.

Dumb enough to pay 175 for 45 minutes you are able to give a similarly dumb gift since clearly money is no object for you.

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Anonymous wrote:if you want you can give the cost of a lesson

Our tutor is 175 for 45 minutes. I’m definitely not giving the cost of a session.

Ridiculous you fools are being taken to the cleaners

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if you want you can give the cost of a lesson

Our tutor is 175 for 45 minutes. I’m definitely not giving the cost of a session.

What subject(s)? Sounds like you are overpaying, unless this is a very niche or special case...

That is crazy high. We have AP tutors online via a platform and pay under $30 an hour.

I just gave them both a small raise as we cannot give gifts via the platform rules so it adds up over the year.

I stopped giving gifts to teachers when my kids were in elementary school. Instead, I write heartfelt letters when I feel some have gone above and beyond. I applied the same to tutors when my kids were older. The exception is my kid's violin teachers, who we've know for years and years (she's had 2 in her life), and who receive small food gifts from us. But teachers or tutors that come and go... no.