Honestly, I don't know if I would convert to a BF status when started as a FWB. all of those relationships for me just ended as FWB.

The thing is, it doesn’t really matter what you feel deep down. He does not want to be official, and has been clear about that. Saying he loves you amounts to nothing if he won’t put his money where his mouth is, and it’s a dead end.

So there’s nothing to mull over or debate, because he’s unwilling to go there. So there’s nothing real question is - should you continue to spend time with him under these circumstances, with no expectations of a future/commitment, or should you move on? Since you want more, I would move on.

There’s no impetus for him to commit right now - he has all of the benefits of a relationship without the commitment. He’s very comfortable, and can have his cake and eat it too. The only way he might change his mind is if you make yourself unavailable to him, but not in the hope that he will eventually commit; you have to truly move on.

And make sure it’s not his unavailability that is attracting you. Examine your own heart.

8 don't know I feel like you should want to be with someone who's enthusiastic about being with you. My now spouse never made me feel like he was reluctant or hesitant about our relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Cut off the sex and see how he behaves.

No don’t be a manipulator

Anonymous wrote:Great sex doesn't grow on trees.

Truth.

If after nine mos., he won’t commit to you as a boyfriend then this does not bode well for you.

He is obviously satisfied w/the status quo & doesn’t want anything to change.

Staying w/him in this dynamic will only hurt you as time goes on.
Trust me - BTDT. 💔

You allowed yourself to get d..kmatized. He’s swimming in your affection without any commitment and it’s going to traumatize you even more
Dump him

This is just a terrible idea.

This won’t work. You declined his suggestion of being exclusive.. Now he’s declining yours

Both of you are immature. Enjoy the D or end it & move on

Anonymous wrote:Cut off the physical. Dont see for a few weeks. See what happens.

Isn't that shooting yourself in the foot? Great sex doesn't grow on trees.

Anonymous wrote:Cut off the physical. Dont see for a few weeks. See what happens.

So, don’t take him on his word and, instead, manipulate him through sex. Sounds like a winning plan long term.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are exclusive. Mid 30s and don’t want kids.

So what are the extra benefits here of being official? You are exclusive, sex is great, you don't want kids so marriage is not that big of a deal. You are already winning!

OP here. I have been really enjoying it. But I want a live in partner one day.

It always baffled me when men think that a woman will endlessly be happy with just sex. At some point she wants more. Women are not like us. I think women must release very different hormones than men when they have sex. I am not a woman so obviously just speculating. But maybe women bond more through sex.

And here is a PSA for guys. If you have a FWB who falls for you and like her as well, go for it. These kind of relationships do really work. Sexual compatibility is very important.

I agree PO. If you have great sex plus friendship that’s a strong combination for long term success.

Cut off the physical. Dont see for a few weeks. See what happens.

This is so stupid.

He said no. So there is your answer. You need to cut it off and walk away.