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Anonymous wrote:Look into Ehlers Danlos. She may need strength training to help with her coordination.

+1. Yep, the hating sitting in chairs and always having legs up is me exactly and was a red flag in the OP. I have hypermobile hips due to hEDS and find sitting in chairs and with feet flat on the floor very physically uncomfortable. That plus the knock knee (which can be due to hypermobility) and clumsy are all very common signs of hypermobility. Does she seem "double jointed" or extra flexible in her hands and wrists, OP? This is a quick and easy test for hypermobility in joints (I had all of these as a teen, and have all still except where repeated injuries have stiffened the joint): https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/assessing-joint-hypermobility/

All of that to say, definitely ask specifically about hypermobility at her next appointment. That can cause injuries and other health issues (ahem, uterine prolapse) in the future. Otherwise, leave the poor girl alone. Tall girls are FABULOUS and she may have physical reasons why she's less athletic. She sounds like a great kid and perfectly normal developmentally.

ED comes with a whole set of concerns. There is a genetic test for diagnosis. It is a cheek swab. This is the sort of thing you want to rule out or in, as there can be heart involvement, too. Op, can you speak on these concerns and on scoliosis evaluation? Your dd may very well have a connective tissue disorder.

There is no genetic test for hEDS. You’re thinking of the vascular or classic variants that can be linked to specific genes. I have some symptoms of vEDS, so had the genetic testing, but didn’t test positive for the vEDS or other specific mutations so only met the diagnostic criteria for hEDS.

Sorry to say this, but your heds sounds like "fibromyalgia" and the like. Even if heds is legit, the heart can be affected and you should get an ecg and avoid high impact exercise.

Great, I’ll let my rheumatologist know what their diagnosis sounds like to you, kind internet stranger. I got genetic testing because my nephew was born with a connective tissue disorder and they wanted to screen family members as well. But nope, my dozen joint dislocations and pelvic floor prolapse as a teen was just coincidence.

Leave her alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Basketball is the only thing a tall girl should be participating in.

This thread almost seems like a joke. As a 5’11 woman it never crossed my (or my parents’) mind to worry about my height. I was prob already 5’8+ at her age. Only annoying thing was buying shoes and pants that fit, and the boys and some friends being SO much shorter in Middle school. I would often stand with my legs further apart/at an angle to be shorter so I could hear the conversations. But that stopped when everybody caught up a bit
Some of my closest friends in college I met in my dorm freshman year, and were as tall as I was. Because I grew up not thinking of it as a negative thing and having tall friends, we thought it was funny that people would refer to us as the Amazons when we would show up to parties together and never gave it a second thought

I agree with everyone else, if there are any coordination issues, you can talk to your doctor, but otherwise she’s lucky to live in a time where it is much easier to buy big shoes and long pants she will absorb the tone you take so teach her to love her height!

Anonymous wrote:Basketball is the only thing a tall girl should be participating in.

Anonymous wrote:They had to get my daughter a different chair in 5th grade because she could not fit in the standard ones so I empathize where you may be coming from. Finding some physical activity she can reasonably do helps. For instance, DD got into rock climbing, hiking, and yoga. She went out for cross country and track and, quite frankly, it took a year plus for her to grow into her body but it happened. In 8th grade she started doing supervised weight training as part of indoor track, which also helped ensure complimentary muscles developed appropriately.

As long as she sees her height as a net positive and sees her body as capable and strong, there really isn't anything to worry about.

Good luck!

A 12 year old doesn’t need a different chair because she’s thin and 5’7”. Everyone hates the hard uncomfortable chairs. The hardest plastic they can find.

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Anonymous wrote:Look into Ehlers Danlos. She may need strength training to help with her coordination.

+1. Yep, the hating sitting in chairs and always having legs up is me exactly and was a red flag in the OP. I have hypermobile hips due to hEDS and find sitting in chairs and with feet flat on the floor very physically uncomfortable. That plus the knock knee (which can be due to hypermobility) and clumsy are all very common signs of hypermobility. Does she seem "double jointed" or extra flexible in her hands and wrists, OP? This is a quick and easy test for hypermobility in joints (I had all of these as a teen, and have all still except where repeated injuries have stiffened the joint): https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/assessing-joint-hypermobility/

All of that to say, definitely ask specifically about hypermobility at her next appointment. That can cause injuries and other health issues (ahem, uterine prolapse) in the future. Otherwise, leave the poor girl alone. Tall girls are FABULOUS and she may have physical reasons why she's less athletic. She sounds like a great kid and perfectly normal developmentally.

ED comes with a whole set of concerns. There is a genetic test for diagnosis. It is a cheek swab. This is the sort of thing you want to rule out or in, as there can be heart involvement, too. Op, can you speak on these concerns and on scoliosis evaluation? Your dd may very well have a connective tissue disorder.

There is no genetic test for hEDS. You’re thinking of the vascular or classic variants that can be linked to specific genes. I have some symptoms of vEDS, so had the genetic testing, but didn’t test positive for the vEDS or other specific mutations so only met the diagnostic criteria for hEDS.

Sorry to say this, but your heds sounds like "fibromyalgia" and the like. Even if heds is legit, the heart can be affected and you should get an ecg and avoid high impact exercise.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - also should note her right hip only is turned in just like my FIL and SIL have, so doc thinks it’s genetic. No back issues at all and she has good motor control when it comes to any sports that require a “swing” like golf or tennis. Her legs are just extremely uncoordinated and she trips and falls a lot

Scoliosis is genetic and it involves the hips. She needs an x ray to diagnose.

I’m a tall’ish mom of a tall’ish 14 year old girl.

I agree with others that your attitude is loud and clear to us and so, even if you think you are discreet, your daughter is getting the drift that you think she is awkward and ungainly.

I grew all at once (6 inches over a summer) and was so clumsy - I just had so much more body/legs than I did before. I agree with others that she may need to do some physical therapy or personal training to strengthen muscles and also give her comfort and confidence in her body. A physical therapist could also assess for actual physical issues. Even if your FIL and SIL have the same hip issue, there have been a lot of advances in treatment that might help.

OP here - also should note her right hip only is turned in just like my FIL and SIL have, so doc thinks it’s genetic. No back issues at all and she has good motor control when it comes to any sports that require a “swing” like golf or tennis. Her legs are just extremely uncoordinated and she trips and falls a lot

Anonymous wrote:Basketball is the only thing a tall girl should be participating in.

This is crazy.

Tall girls can participate in almost every sport! I'm short, but always wanted to be tall, especially as a teen.

To the OP: I agree with others who have been concerned that your judgement needs to be dialed down. She can't help being tall. You can help her to be more comfortable with her height by finding physical activities that she loves, and encouraging her in them.

My 6' tall hiking friend says that a tall, good looking woman gym teacher really helped her to feel confident in her looks.

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Anonymous wrote:Look into Ehlers Danlos. She may need strength training to help with her coordination.

+1. Yep, the hating sitting in chairs and always having legs up is me exactly and was a red flag in the OP. I have hypermobile hips due to hEDS and find sitting in chairs and with feet flat on the floor very physically uncomfortable. That plus the knock knee (which can be due to hypermobility) and clumsy are all very common signs of hypermobility. Does she seem "double jointed" or extra flexible in her hands and wrists, OP? This is a quick and easy test for hypermobility in joints (I had all of these as a teen, and have all still except where repeated injuries have stiffened the joint): https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/assessing-joint-hypermobility/

All of that to say, definitely ask specifically about hypermobility at her next appointment. That can cause injuries and other health issues (ahem, uterine prolapse) in the future. Otherwise, leave the poor girl alone. Tall girls are FABULOUS and she may have physical reasons why she's less athletic. She sounds like a great kid and perfectly normal developmentally.

ED comes with a whole set of concerns. There is a genetic test for diagnosis. It is a cheek swab. This is the sort of thing you want to rule out or in, as there can be heart involvement, too. Op, can you speak on these concerns and on scoliosis evaluation? Your dd may very well have a connective tissue disorder.

There is no genetic test for hEDS. You’re thinking of the vascular or classic variants that can be linked to specific genes. I have some symptoms of vEDS, so had the genetic testing, but didn’t test positive for the vEDS or other specific mutations so only met the diagnostic criteria for hEDS.

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Anonymous wrote:Look into Ehlers Danlos. She may need strength training to help with her coordination.

+1. Yep, the hating sitting in chairs and always having legs up is me exactly and was a red flag in the OP. I have hypermobile hips due to hEDS and find sitting in chairs and with feet flat on the floor very physically uncomfortable. That plus the knock knee (which can be due to hypermobility) and clumsy are all very common signs of hypermobility. Does she seem "double jointed" or extra flexible in her hands and wrists, OP? This is a quick and easy test for hypermobility in joints (I had all of these as a teen, and have all still except where repeated injuries have stiffened the joint): https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/assessing-joint-hypermobility/

All of that to say, definitely ask specifically about hypermobility at her next appointment. That can cause injuries and other health issues (ahem, uterine prolapse) in the future. Otherwise, leave the poor girl alone. Tall girls are FABULOUS and she may have physical reasons why she's less athletic. She sounds like a great kid and perfectly normal developmentally.

ED comes with a whole set of concerns. There is a genetic test for diagnosis. It is a cheek swab. This is the sort of thing you want to rule out or in, as there can be heart involvement, too. Op, can you speak on these concerns and on scoliosis evaluation? Your dd may very well have a connective tissue disorder.

Basketball is the only thing a tall girl should be participating in.