Spouse came to prenatal appointments, and birth and to subsequent medical procedures (eg, colonoscopy when you need someone to drive you home, and gall bladder surgery), but not regular appointments. That may change as we get older or have anything serious going on

Yes, when he can.

Yes, at some point, it’s nice to have a second person attend appointments. Even if she doesn’t have questions, it’s good to have a second set of ears to take it all in.

I would, since it's a serious condition that has the potential to suddenly incapacitate you. It's important that she be informed so she knows what to do.

If you feel that you need her support then ask her. No need to crowdsource this. My DH came with me to my surgical consults but not the routine appointments.

Nurse here. Yes, she should attend. I always think it's a good idea to have a support person with you because the information can be overwhelming and you may also forget to bring things up. When DH had back surgery, I went to all his appts before and after surgery.

I have a chronic illness and don't have DH come to my appts, but since I'm a nurse I don't really feel like I need that extra support.

NP. Yes, she should accompany you to your medical appointments.