Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 20:52     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My BF and I split over 6 months ago, he moved out. For context, he's a massive procrastinator and overall super lazy.

He left some stuff at my place - art, clothes, books, etc. Can I go ahead and throw it all out? I feel like 6 months is plenty of time to pick it up without needing to be reminded.


This is one of those "How you handle this is about you, not him" situations. It's been 6 months. If you're still inclined to be spiteful and petty, that's about you, not him.

Send him a casual text saying something like "I was cleaning my place and I found these things. If you want them, please let me know when you can come by this week and I'll set them out for you. If you don't want them, no text needed. I'll donate them next Saturday."

Be a decent person.


And 5 days after the “Next Saturday” deadline, he’ll text her: “I was sick/on vacation. Can I come get it next weekend?”

If he hasn't asked for it by now, he doesn’t want it.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 20:43     Subject: Re:Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who are these people saying give him a notice? It has been there for 6 months. He doesn’t need a reminder… he doesn’t need anything because he left. Toss it all.


It hasn't been outside. Put it outside and send a text with a pic.


Definitely include a pic or itemized list. He may not remember what he left, and while you don't consider it valuable/important, he might.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 20:42     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:My BF and I split over 6 months ago, he moved out. For context, he's a massive procrastinator and overall super lazy.

He left some stuff at my place - art, clothes, books, etc. Can I go ahead and throw it all out? I feel like 6 months is plenty of time to pick it up without needing to be reminded.


This is one of those "How you handle this is about you, not him" situations. It's been 6 months. If you're still inclined to be spiteful and petty, that's about you, not him.

Send him a casual text saying something like "I was cleaning my place and I found these things. If you want them, please let me know when you can come by this week and I'll set them out for you. If you don't want them, no text needed. I'll donate them next Saturday."

Be a decent person.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 17:48     Subject: Re:Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:Who are these people saying give him a notice? It has been there for 6 months. He doesn’t need a reminder… he doesn’t need anything because he left. Toss it all.


It hasn't been outside. Put it outside and send a text with a pic.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 17:47     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. And who are these men moving in with women anyways?


I call them hobosexuals.


I call them smart. Most men do not have as nice a place.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 17:33     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Give final warning with timeline of a week to get
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 17:27     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
"If it's not picked up by ___ date, I will discard it."

If others are going through this, is that should have been stated 5 1/2 months ago
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 17:19     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:No text him and say he has a week to get it or you donate it.


This.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 16:48     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
If you know where he lives and it’s not too far, drop it off at his doorstep. Otherwise tell him you’re putting it out tomorrow at x time, and if he doesn’t pick it up it’ll go in the trash.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 15:33     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Don't be petty. Putting art and books in a dumpster? Are you PPs barbarians?
People can enjoy those.
Give him notice and say they will be donated if not picked up. List the art explicitly.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:45     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:I put his stuff on the driveway, double locked the doors, and left. I said you have 12 hours to pick up, then it’s gone.


And? Did he?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:31     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:Yes. And who are these men moving in with women anyways?


I call them hobosexuals.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:30     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
I put his stuff on the driveway, double locked the doors, and left. I said you have 12 hours to pick up, then it’s gone.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:26     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
Anonymous wrote:My BF and I split over 6 months ago, he moved out. For context, he's a massive procrastinator and overall super lazy.

He left some stuff at my place - art, clothes, books, etc. Can I go ahead and throw it all out? I feel like 6 months is plenty of time to pick it up without needing to be reminded.

He has ADHD. He doesn't even remember that he left the things behind. He definitely won't be coming by to pick them up.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2025 14:12     Subject: Can I throw his stuff away?
No text him and say he has a week to get it or you donate it.