Anonymous
Post 12/22/2025 09:02     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
The recruiting process is completely different for every sport. The timing of contact, timing on visits, timing or offers and commitment and scholarship.


Anonymous
Post 12/22/2025 08:10     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
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Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.


Not until offers are made.



Some sports don’t make an offer until after visits so parents are more likely involved.


At the visit, sure.


Official visit is where the offer is made


That was not our experience across the board.
Anonymous
Post 12/22/2025 08:04     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
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Anonymous wrote:Ours did all of it, though his travel coach (this is baseball BTW) was also helpful making introductions. His coach was pretty blunt with all the players as to where they were recruitable and then was happy to reach out to college coaches at that level (and in fact he told all the players that was the best way to go for initial outreach). His club coach also texted coaches to arrange for them to attend tournament games where my kid was playing and his club coach was great playing kids based on the coaches that were showing up. He always tried to win games but if the Harvard coach was watching he didn’t play his teammates that were recruited by NC State or UVA because those kids were way too strong for Harvard (and had no interest)…even if it meant losing the game.

Honestly, it wasn’t a ton of outreach…only like 20 coaches total over a couple of months.


Wow, our travel baseball program doesn't do any of this. Which program?


Mid Atlantic Red Sox 17u
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 20:42     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.


Not until offers are made.



Some sports don’t make an offer until after visits so parents are more likely involved.


At the visit, sure.


Official visit is where the offer is made
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 20:12     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.


Not until offers are made.



Some sports don’t make an offer until after visits so parents are more likely involved.


At the visit, sure.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 20:10     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Mine did it themselves

If they can not do it themselves they have no business being a college athlete
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 20:09     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.


Not until offers are made.



Some sports don’t make an offer until after visits so parents are more likely involved.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 16:51     Subject: Re:If your kid was recruited to play in college
Your kid does have time to do the work, OP, even with a demanding practice schedule and heavy junior year academic load. Lots of our kids are in the same boat.

My husband helped DS come up with some email templates, and once a week they go over any questions DS has about how to respond to particular coach emails. DS checks with us about dates for camps/showcases, and we make the travel arrangements. Otherwise, DS has done it all, including the highlight videos, which he really enjoys.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 16:42     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.


Not until offers are made.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 16:33     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.


For the huge D1 programs- we only talked to the coaches at the official visit. For schools that are better academically than sports wise but still good D1 programs- we had a Zoom call when the process started (like after the initial call with child). It is very interesting how different the recruiting process can be from school to school but this was pretty consistent.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 16:20     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.


Not in our case. DD was recruited to big D1 program. The only contact we had with coaches was at her official, by which time she'd already verbally committed.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 14:13     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Anonymous wrote:All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.


If the coaches are really interested, they want to talk with the parents. They want the whole family on board with the choice.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:59     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
Kid all of it, except for official visits because coaches ARE checking that the parents won’t be a PITA.

Website, emails, video calls, sending film, all done by our DS
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:17     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
I don't know the website name but I had a work friend with softball-playing girls who had found a portal that manages contacts, suggests letter templates, etc. He was having his older daughter start with that to organize her D3 approaches. Maybe someone will chime in with recs?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 12:14     Subject: If your kid was recruited to play in college
All of it. They don't want to hear from parents.