Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a certain amount of just do it.

Therapy helps, but definitely strengthen your friend network. Lean into old friends. Even faraway ones can be good to talk with… my friends were so much more understanding and helpful than I could have imagined.

A year after the divorce and my social life is a million times better than it was during my marriage. It’s a combination of having more time to myself and using that to travel/reconnect with old friends, pursue some personal interests and training that has led to some very close new friends, and expanding my career and contacts there.

Being in a bad marriage grinds down your sense of self. As you come back into yourself, you’ll connect more with others who are your people.

How old are you? Did you change address?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a certain amount of just do it.

Therapy helps, but definitely strengthen your friend network. Lean into old friends. Even faraway ones can be good to talk with… my friends were so much more understanding and helpful than I could have imagined.

A year after the divorce and my social life is a million times better than it was during my marriage. It’s a combination of having more time to myself and using that to travel/reconnect with old friends, pursue some personal interests and training that has led to some very close new friends, and expanding my career and contacts there.

Being in a bad marriage grinds down your sense of self. As you come back into yourself, you’ll connect more with others who are your people.

Not OP but could you elaborate a little bit more on the professional training you’ve got ? I’m thinking of same

Anonymous wrote:There’s a certain amount of just do it.

Therapy helps, but definitely strengthen your friend network. Lean into old friends. Even faraway ones can be good to talk with… my friends were so much more understanding and helpful than I could have imagined.

A year after the divorce and my social life is a million times better than it was during my marriage. It’s a combination of having more time to myself and using that to travel/reconnect with old friends, pursue some personal interests and training that has led to some very close new friends, and expanding my career and contacts there.

Being in a bad marriage grinds down your sense of self. As you come back into yourself, you’ll connect more with others who are your people.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cant bear to stay with my cheating spouse anymore, and am working on gathering documents for separation. I am scared to death just thinking of this transition (together for almost 3 decades), and although I have a lawyer, I just dont know how to prepare emotionally-also considering I will be with the kids (older teens-one in college). My therapist pointed out i am trying to talk myself out of it. I am prepared to take a financial hit but the emotional hit scares me. I dont have any family around to lean on, but do have a decent federal job.

I feel you. I don’t love my wife anymore. She’s refused intimacy for years. My therapist tells me I need to do it for my mental health but with a kid that has health issues and needs to be monitored, separating is problematic.
I simply don’t know what to do or when. I really dislike my situation

Anonymous wrote:I cant bear to stay with my cheating spouse anymore, and am working on gathering documents for separation. I am scared to death just thinking of this transition (together for almost 3 decades), and although I have a lawyer, I just dont know how to prepare emotionally-also considering I will be with the kids (older teens-one in college). My therapist pointed out i am trying to talk myself out of it. I am prepared to take a financial hit but the emotional hit scares me. I dont have any family around to lean on, but do have a decent federal job.

Anonymous wrote:There’s a certain amount of just do it.

Therapy helps, but definitely strengthen your friend network. Lean into old friends. Even faraway ones can be good to talk with… my friends were so much more understanding and helpful than I could have imagined.

A year after the divorce and my social life is a million times better than it was during my marriage. It’s a combination of having more time to myself and using that to travel/reconnect with old friends, pursue some personal interests and training that has led to some very close new friends, and expanding my career and contacts there.

Being in a bad marriage grinds down your sense of self. As you come back into yourself, you’ll connect more with others who are your people.

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP on a positive note you can now join the line of older women f**g younger men.

Anonymous wrote:I am divorced. I don’t think it was hard. The marriage was hard.

It is not easier being divorced so keep that in mind. Also don’t divorce thinking you will find another partner—only do it if being single forever is better than being married to this man.

I would not divorce if you have the slightest hesitation. You might regret it. Only do it if you know for sure you won’t regret it. I would pause if I were you.

Anonymous wrote:OP here: Ripped off the bandage, revealed what I knew-did not get any confession or remorse-I expected it but wow some weight lifted off my chest..

Anonymous wrote:OP here: Ripped off the bandage, revealed what I knew-did not get any confession or remorse-I expected it but wow some weight lifted off my chest..