Anonymous wrote:We have a very small family. Groom doesn’t want to invite his one uncle and one cousin in the US or aunt who lives in another country. This is mom’s only brother and dad’s only sister.

DH and I disagree on whether not close family should be invited just because they are family. There is no drama between groom and family members.

Op, fight to have your family included. All the people here telling you otherwise are on Xanax.

OP you haven't clarified. Is this your son? Is he paying, or are you? If you are donating then yes, he should add a few more guests you request. If he and his wife are paying in full, they chose the guest list.

We had a crazy situation. We got married on our own because we have high drama families and DH's parent's divorce, even though it happened many years ago was a mess. My parents insisted on throwing a party a fancy gathering a year later. We didn't want i, but went along to get along. Since they were paying we let mom be in charge. She would not allow us to invite any friends, but then when declines started coming in she allowed some and then insisted we invite them because she decided it would look bad if we didn't have a few friends there. Then she kept having dramas over things like her decision not to allow kids, what photos she wanted from the photographer. It never ended. I wish we had said no to the party too. Nobody wants drama as part of celebrating their union.

Anonymous wrote:The groom is being a petty man. We are talking about two relatives in the US. The one in a different country might not want to make the trip.

The American ones could be given a chance to reconnect and establish an adult relationship with the groom.

Yes it's normal to invite family at that level absent serious issues. Weddings are about family. Griping over 2 ppl sounds ridiculous unless this is like a 10 person wedding.

If you are paying, then you should get a say barring any sort of abuse from the excluded.

My own wedding was less than 25 people, so I don’t find this strange. And it sounds like the groom is inviting none of his aunts and uncles. I agree that if it’s a large wedding this is awkward. If it’s small, that’s all you need to say.

And it is the couple’s decision either way.

Anonymous wrote:We have a very small family. Groom doesn’t want to invite his one uncle and one cousin in the US or aunt who lives in another country. This is mom’s only brother and dad’s only sister.

DH and I disagree on whether not close family should be invited just because they are family. There is no drama between groom and family members.

Who is paying for wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of yours or you DH's business?

This.
MYOB OP

Not your wedding. Not your call to make.

If OP is the groom's parent and their siblings are not being invited, they're being put in the middle.

Only if they choose to put themselves there. If anyone asks OP she can say the bride and groom made their own guest list. No “middle” required.

Generally speaking, unless it’s a tiny micro-wedding, not inviting family will end up damaging his relationship with those family members. If he’s okay with that, then fine, but I personally think it’s short-sighted.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of yours or you DH's business?

Because it is our family!

But not your wedding

I went to a wedding where one side had only the sibling plus parents. That is it, 3 people. The other side had extended family. Imbalance can work.

Focus of invitations may be bride’s and groom’s friends.

The explanation offered is always “ it was a small wedding.”

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of yours or you DH's business?

Because it is our family!

Lady, you already had your wedding. This is your son’s choice not yours.

Etiquette and good manners always allow both parents of bride and groom to invite a guest or two.

I have never ever heard of this from Emily Post.

+1
Def not in 2025

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of yours or you DH's business?

This.
MYOB OP

Not your wedding. Not your call to make.

If OP is the groom's parent and their siblings are not being invited, they're being put in the middle.

Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of yours or you DH's business?

This.
MYOB OP

Not your wedding. Not your call to make.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of yours or you DH's business?

Because it is our family!

Lady, you already had your wedding. This is your son’s choice not yours.

Etiquette and good manners always allow both parents of bride and groom to invite a guest or two.

I have never ever heard of this from Emily Post.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it any of yours or you DH's business?

Because it is our family!

Lady, you already had your wedding. This is your son’s choice not yours.

Etiquette and good manners always allow both parents of bride and groom to invite a guest or two.