Text. Talking is boomer

I’ve actually been thinking a lot about this recently. I have one close friend who really prefers to catch up over the phone and gets annoyed that I default to text. However, she always wants to catch up on her drive home from work - and she lives in Denver so she’s two hours behind me. I usually miss her calls because they come in the middle of our dinner/bath/bedtime routine. I always call her back later the same night when I have some free time, but then she’s unavailable for the same reason. (We both have young kids.) I totally get why some people prefer the phone, especially for maintaining long-distance friendships, but it can be really impractical. Text is better than nothing!

I prefer the Marco Polo app (as someone already mentioned) or voice notes. So much easier than text.

Anonymous wrote:I hate talking on the phone. I find my female friends who demand this want to talk for an hour. Too much. I’m busy

Same here. I spend a good chunk of the work day on the phone/zoom and really just don't want to talk when evening comes around. And the friend who wants to talk the most often is always calling me while doing other things - talking to her kids, making dinner, clanking dishes around, etc. It doesn't make for a pleasant conversation.

Anonymous wrote:Phone. I don't want to read screens or type any more than I have to. I put an earbud in, and chat away with my cousins and friends while we fold laundry, water plants, wash dishes, dust, knit, whatever.

This. I have one friend in particular who I unwind with on the phone

Anonymous wrote:I prefer text. I don't have any friends who want to talk on the phone.

I have a few. They’re single

I hate talking on the phone. I find my female friends who demand this want to talk for an hour. Too much. I’m busy

Neither.
Let’s meet up.

Anonymous wrote:I find the cognitive load of texts (really any notifications) too much for me. I know a lot of people prefer it, but it just doesn’t work for me anymore.

Over the last year I did the slow fade on friends who just text. Nothing against them, I know people are busy, but random texts aren’t adding anything to my life, and if neither of us are a priority to the other to actually talk or meet up, it’s not a friendship I need to continue. It’s okay to let some friends go.

Do you have people in your life that text you but never see you?

90% of my communication are text but I’ll call about 1x a week driving or walking to catch up.

Some people love talking on the phone. I don’t really like it so I have to be doing something else.

Please don’t chew, yell at your dog, talk to other people, walk away from your phone with AirPods in, etc while on phone… I can talk later or text me,

That’s rude.

I find the cognitive load of texts (really any notifications) too much for me. I know a lot of people prefer it, but it just doesn’t work for me anymore.

Over the last year I did the slow fade on friends who just text. Nothing against them, I know people are busy, but random texts aren’t adding anything to my life, and if neither of us are a priority to the other to actually talk or meet up, it’s not a friendship I need to continue. It’s okay to let some friends go.

Are these friends local?

Local friends, I text to arrange plans and that’s it. I very rarely “catch up” in between, and yes, if we do it’s a quick text.

Far away friends that I’m seeing 2x a year or less? Call. You can’t maintain a friendship over text, sorry.

Texting means I don't ever need to catch up. My friends and I talk almost every day.

Texting friends for catching up is lazy. Texting is for "oh I'm running 10 minutes late" or just a quick short note. Nothing else. Call your friends and make time for them.

Definitely Text. It has nothing to do with caring. My friends who want to talk on the phone tend to be older and/or not as busy as some of my other friends (no kids, or partner or don’t work)