Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean yes that’s all pretty rough but I’d win almost any hardship overcoming contest trust me

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

I was born and raised in poverty, joined the army and went to a combat zone for college money, and then got cancer from the burn pits. I don't ask anyone for sympathy and I'm not a victim, but it's complete garbage to declare that my life is easier since I'm white when it's been objectively harder than most.

Born in raised in a physical and psychological abusive family. Head shoved through walls, broken arms, broken nose. Joined the USMC to escape. Multiple tours in Iraq and fun other places. Raped.
But having watched how badly my black and brown brothers and sisters in arms are treated as civilians, I know I was born with an advantage just by being white.

Being born white has nothing to do with the trauma you and others on this post have endured. Suffering doesn’t discriminate.

If you think that childhood abuse and rape should be minimized if you were born white and enjoyed white privilege at times in your life, that in itself is a coping response.

It’s not healthy to say, “yeah I was raped but it’s no big deal because I can walk through a store without being followed due to my race.” What happened to you IS a big deal, and has nothing to do with race.

About 15 hardships, but I handled them well. Finding my partner dead was like, 'ah, it's part of life'.
I'm very resilient. I always thought the hard times were temporary and they have been. I have forgot about most of them. The childhood one is probably the hardest as I couldn't do much about it.
Almost all were caused by dealing with messed up people.

Anonymous wrote:I mean yes that’s all pretty rough but I’d win almost any hardship overcoming contest trust me

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

Because ever black person in the world was born in a poverty stricken country in a mud hut after being raped at age 13 by a UN peackeeper.

Anonymous wrote:Almost kidnapped and trafficked at 6. This has imprinted on my soul and I am always, always looking over my shoulder.
Parents divorced teenage years.
I’ve moved over 20 times which can be exciting but very stressful and has taken a toll on my ability to make or retain friendships.
Son has anger issues tied to ADHD

Within the past 5 years:
I’ve moved 3 times
My mother died
My favorite pet that I have ever had had to be put to sleep the year after
My child completed suicide less than 3 months ago.

I have not overcome the last one and have had the darkest days I’ve ever had in my life.

My father is not doing well and I expect him to pass within the next year or so.

PP, I am so very sorry that you recently lost your child to suicide. So very sorry.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean yes that’s all pretty rough but I’d win almost any hardship overcoming contest trust me

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

I was born and raised in poverty, joined the army and went to a combat zone for college money, and then got cancer from the burn pits. I don't ask anyone for sympathy and I'm not a victim, but it's complete garbage to declare that my life is easier since I'm white when it's been objectively harder than most.

Born in raised in a physical and psychological abusive family. Head shoved through walls, broken arms, broken nose. Joined the USMC to escape. Multiple tours in Iraq and fun other places. Raped.
But having watched how badly my black and brown brothers and sisters in arms are treated as civilians, I know I was born with an advantage just by being white.

This lecture that you are giving is an important one and has a place. But this is not the place.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean yes that’s all pretty rough but I’d win almost any hardship overcoming contest trust me

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

I was born and raised in poverty, joined the army and went to a combat zone for college money, and then got cancer from the burn pits. I don't ask anyone for sympathy and I'm not a victim, but it's complete garbage to declare that my life is easier since I'm white when it's been objectively harder than most.

Born in raised in a physical and psychological abusive family. Head shoved through walls, broken arms, broken nose. Joined the USMC to escape. Multiple tours in Iraq and fun other places. Raped.
But having watched how badly my black and brown brothers and sisters in arms are treated as civilians, I know I was born with an advantage just by being white.

My ACE score is 8.

We had to move last year, even though we owned a beautiful house in Falls Church with a 2.5% interest mortgage on it, because my PTSD was set off daily by my neighbors (I have strange and unfortunately commonplace triggers). I spent most days feeling fear and rage, sometimes from 7:30 am on. I tried to avoid the triggers by wearing noise-cancelling headphones and not looking out the windows, but it didn't work (and I gave myself hearing loss that calls for hearing aids by blaring white noise into my ears as loud as it would go through the headphones almost daily for a couple of years straight). Looking back I'm honestly surprised I lived through the past couple of years.

But it proves that you really can't escape your past. Or at least I can't. Things I heard and saw when little are harming me today in extreme ways and I can't think myself out of it. And yes, I've tried meds, therapy, emdr, ketamine infusions, you name it. I did everything I possibly could to stay in that house. But as my psychiatrist said, sometimes all you can do is get away from the triggers if you can.

PTSD is horrific.

You would have felt so much better if you'd left him the first time you cheated. But what's done is done. Get checked for STD's if you haven't already.

Almost kidnapped and trafficked at 6. This has imprinted on my soul and I am always, always looking over my shoulder.
Parents divorced teenage years.
I’ve moved over 20 times which can be exciting but very stressful and has taken a toll on my ability to make or retain friendships.
Son has anger issues tied to ADHD

Within the past 5 years:
I’ve moved 3 times
My mother died
My favorite pet that I have ever had had to be put to sleep the year after
My child completed suicide less than 3 months ago.

I have not overcome the last one and have had the darkest days I’ve ever had in my life.

My father is not doing well and I expect him to pass within the next year or so.