Anonymous
12/02/2025 15:33
Subject: Re:If someone doesn't speak up in meetings, is that the employee's fault or the manager's?
I don’t see it as a “fault” — unless the manager isn’t managing things so that people who are not enthusiastic talkers have opportunities to be heard.
Here’s what not to do though. I’m pretty thoughtful, like to listen, and prefer to speak only when I have something relevant to say. I had a supervisor demand that I speak at least once in every large staff meeting, so, eventually I’d just say random crap so that I could check off that particular box. That’s a really bad habit to develop. (My participation has never been a concern in any other meeting or setting.)
Here’s what not to do though. I’m pretty thoughtful, like to listen, and prefer to speak only when I have something relevant to say. I had a supervisor demand that I speak at least once in every large staff meeting, so, eventually I’d just say random crap so that I could check off that particular box. That’s a really bad habit to develop. (My participation has never been a concern in any other meeting or setting.)
Anonymous
12/02/2025 15:10
Subject: If someone doesn't speak up in meetings, is that the employee's fault or the manager's?
Anonymous wrote:For those who have said it can be both, when would you say it's the manager's fault? I'm in a meeting where a couple of people don't just dominate the conversation, but they take up an extreme amount of time, and I think that's a case where the manager doesn't set boundaries.
I think this would be an example of the manager's fault, yes.
Anonymous
12/02/2025 11:27
Subject: If someone doesn't speak up in meetings, is that the employee's fault or the manager's?
If you are always framing things as “fault”, then you will fail both as manager and employee.
Employee should find ways to contribute if not speaking.
Managers should work with what you have.
Those 60k recruiting fees aren’t for you to stroke your ego.
Employee should find ways to contribute if not speaking.
Managers should work with what you have.
Those 60k recruiting fees aren’t for you to stroke your ego.
Anonymous
12/02/2025 10:41
Subject: If someone doesn't speak up in meetings, is that the employee's fault or the manager's?
Anonymous wrote:Sometimes extroverts hog meetings and participate so much others don't have time to formulate a response. Other times, there is nothing of value to say so why speak up just to say something?
+1. If there are specific contributions it would be helpful to hear from the person, tell them that.
Anonymous
12/02/2025 10:40
Subject: If someone doesn't speak up in meetings, is that the employee's fault or the manager's?
Sometimes extroverts hog meetings and participate so much others don't have time to formulate a response. Other times, there is nothing of value to say so why speak up just to say something?