Our kids are at a smaller independent school and I think we may be one of the only families in the grade where one of us SAH.

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Anonymous wrote:Curious if there’s a meaningful difference between public, parochial, and non-parochial private.

I think most in top privates have one parent that not does not work full time. It is a luxury. Some go na k to work after I kids are older or go to college but many if they can afford it choose to have one parent not work. I would say the most well adjusted kids tend to have parents that fall into this category.

Hello same poster who always has something negative and completely unfounded to say about working parents. This just isn’t true. Well adjusted kids come from all kinds of families. Outcomes vary tremendously and are multi factor. But if it helps you defend your decision to not work, believe what you want to believe.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have either achieved or inherited generational wealth, middle class notions of “jobs” and “employment” aren’t relevant.

So true.

This is only true if you're ok with the family's wealth being squandered away.

At our private, I'd say 1/3-1/2 have a SAHP. Then we even have a few familes where both parents don't work. In those cases, the DH retired after something big like selling their business.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious if there’s a meaningful difference between public, parochial, and non-parochial private.

I think most in top privates have one parent that not does not work full time. It is a luxury. Some go na k to work after I kids are older or go to college but many if they can afford it choose to have one parent not work. I would say the most well adjusted kids tend to have parents that fall into this category.

Hello same poster who always has something negative and completely unfounded to say about working parents. This just isn’t true. Well adjusted kids come from all kinds of families. Outcomes vary tremendously and are multi factor. But if it helps you defend your decision to not work, believe what you want to believe.

Anonymous wrote:If you have either achieved or inherited generational wealth, middle class notions of “jobs” and “employment” aren’t relevant.

So true.

1/3 stay at home or have hobby job at our upper school. We started in middle school and most families starting in middle and high school have dual incomes. More than half families who started in elementary school have a SAH parent.

Anonymous wrote:Curious if there’s a meaningful difference between public, parochial, and non-parochial private.

I think most in top privates have one parent that not does not work full time. It is a luxury. Some go na k to work after I kids are older or go to college but many if they can afford it choose to have one parent not work. I would say the most well adjusted kids tend to have parents that fall into this category.

Anecdotal but our private school class has a lot of two-income families where both spouses are fairly high earners but at least one is flexible / makes own hours. Carpool line is mostly parents, not nannies, and aftercare is underutilized.
Of the two dozen or so kids we know in our local public, there are some SAH parents and a lot of families where one spouse is part-time.

Ours is actually one of very few families I know where both spouses work full time in an office and put kids in aftercare.