A friend of mine had a sitting job when she was in nursing school where she watched an adult woman who needed assistance. Basically like a babysitting job but for an adult. They found her by contacting the nursing school.

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Anonymous wrote:A group home might be a good fit for her.

I was ito suggest this.

It really does not sound like this daughter has developmental disabilities at all. So, not appropriate.

Does she have a diagnosis of some sort?
There wasn't really anything wrong with Rosemary, btw.

Anonymous wrote:I think we have run into a wall with our 20 yo girl

We can't supervise her properly anymore. Her dad is both absent and present in some degrees while having a whole other new family, but able to financially compensate. He and his new family seem to treat her like the family pet when she comes over and she likes to play with his "new grandkids" and do coloring books with them. She's very sweet at those times.

Every time I read about the Kennedy daughter from the 1930s who got an experimental lobotomy, I think of her. Every description of how they said she behaved reminds me of my daughter.

She's healthy, she doesn't need physical caregiving. She needs adult supervision and I can't give it to her.

Do you have guardianship or a conservatorship? If so, call any nanny agency and ask for a live-in caregiver for an adult with special needs. If not? There’s no legal remedy for this if she doesn’t agree.

NP from the SN forum here and this post doesn't pass the smell test. What the poster is looking for is called a direct support professional. It doesn't make sense that the family has arrived at this point and has no knowledge of SN services. By the time a kid is in high school we SN parents have been in the system for many years, figuring out benefits, creating a network, and most importantly preparing for transition, the time when school supports fall away. Unless this is a mental health issue I can't understand how OP is unaware of services.

OP? please post in the special needs forum. there are more people there who have had kids in this situation. AS another PP says, a lot depends on the kind of disability, but a job may be an option - either supported or unsupported by a job coach or training. There are also day programs disabled adults can participate in if they can’t work. There may be camps or art or music programs. My friend has an autistic brother in his 50s. He has lived happily in a supported home environment, independent of his family, but they visit a lot. He has a paid companion (not the sexual kind) who spends time with him and helps him do things in the community - sometimes things like groceries and medical appointments and sometimes just regular things like going to the pool.

I think the county disability office is an entry point for finding out about these kinds of programs

It's hard to answer this question without knowing what kind of disability, and what jurisdiction.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a woman like that in the Army. She could always enlist.

No onger true.

Yep, I think a lot of people watch movies like Forrest Gump and assume anyone can enlist. But times have changed and the needs of the modern military are different.

Now, the ASVAB exam is mandatory and someone with a limited IQ and academic ability would likely not pass. There's also more emphasis on screening for intellectual aptitude in basic training than in the past. The curve on the ASVAB/population you are scored against has gotten increasingly harder and self-selecting because some schools administer it to almost all graduating seniors, including those going to 4 year colleges and not planning on the military, and some community colleges are also encouraging as many students as possible to take it.

The list of medical conditions and medications that disqualify you is also getting longer, too.

Anonymous wrote:I knew a woman like that in the Army. She could always enlist.

The armed services are no longer a dumping ground.

Anonymous wrote:A group home might be a good fit for her.

I was ito suggest this.

Most 20 year olds who need adult supervision were previously 15, 16, 17, 18, 19 year olds who need adult supervision. Kids with profound disabilities can stay in school until they're 22. I'm confused by your post.