I think it is genetic. My MIL would blame my FIL is she were walking and tripped over something she set down. It would be his fault because he didn’t pick up whatever she set down, and he didn’t get her whatever she got up to get. I am not embellishing this at all. Now my wife does the exact same things to me. It’s misery.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I typed them into google and this is what I got:

“When your wife blames you for everything, it often indicates she is unhappy with the relationship, is unable or unwilling to take responsibility, or is using blame as a defense mechanism to protect her self-esteem. This behavior is a form of blame-shifting that can stem from deep-seated issues like insecurity, past experiences, or a need to feel in control. It can also be a sign of poor communication, emotional abuse, or a relationship that is in trouble”

“ Your husband may blame you for everything because he is deflecting from his own insecurities, stress, or unhappiness, or he is using it as a defense mechanism to avoid responsibility. It can also be a sign of deeper issues like narcissistic tendencies, poor communication skills, or an inability to manage his own emotions. In some cases, blame can be a form of emotional manipulation, also known as gaslighting.”

Overall pretty similar. You’re probably falling for selection bias, and only hearing the things you want to hear.

Are you aware that you just posted an AI summary and not an actual human perspective. Try reading the reddit results for real human examples. I am talking about human perceptions and dynamics here.

Dude. What you’re missing is that your “real life” examples have been drastically skewed by the algorithm to show you what you expect to see.

Someone without your bias isn’t going to get the same results when you “search” for “truth”

Anonymous wrote:Can’t comments on other boards, but this one is literally called DC Urban Moms, so know your audience.

Check again. I see the word “Dads” right at top.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I typed them into google and this is what I got:

“When your wife blames you for everything, it often indicates she is unhappy with the relationship, is unable or unwilling to take responsibility, or is using blame as a defense mechanism to protect her self-esteem. This behavior is a form of blame-shifting that can stem from deep-seated issues like insecurity, past experiences, or a need to feel in control. It can also be a sign of poor communication, emotional abuse, or a relationship that is in trouble”

“ Your husband may blame you for everything because he is deflecting from his own insecurities, stress, or unhappiness, or he is using it as a defense mechanism to avoid responsibility. It can also be a sign of deeper issues like narcissistic tendencies, poor communication skills, or an inability to manage his own emotions. In some cases, blame can be a form of emotional manipulation, also known as gaslighting.”

Overall pretty similar. You’re probably falling for selection bias, and only hearing the things you want to hear.

Are you aware that you just posted an AI summary and not an actual human perspective. Try reading the reddit results for real human examples. I am talking about human perceptions and dynamics here.

Yes, I am. The OP literally says “type it into google and see for yourself!” So I did.

Like I said. Selection bias. You said google it, google didn’t confirm your belief, so now you’re saying to seek out different websites that DO confirm your beliefs. Rather than taking an objective look at everything.

Like PP said, there are plenty of forums where the opposite is true. And there are plenty of people who do see nuance. You’re choosing to focus on what you want to hear.

Nobody would have thought that it would have been necessary to make a disclaimer about the concept that human opinion is the topic being discussed here. You are just arguing nonsense because you know that this dynamic is a real thing. The overwhelming social temperature is as described. Reddit is a generalist forum and cannot be discredited by the mere existence of an extremist men’s forum. I can literally find any fringe opinion conceivable online somewhere but that doesn’t preclude the discussion of obviously dominant social dynamics.

Can you post an example of what you are talking about, op? I don’t see this.

Can’t comments on other boards, but this one is literally called DC Urban Moms, so know your audience.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I typed them into google and this is what I got:

“When your wife blames you for everything, it often indicates she is unhappy with the relationship, is unable or unwilling to take responsibility, or is using blame as a defense mechanism to protect her self-esteem. This behavior is a form of blame-shifting that can stem from deep-seated issues like insecurity, past experiences, or a need to feel in control. It can also be a sign of poor communication, emotional abuse, or a relationship that is in trouble”

“ Your husband may blame you for everything because he is deflecting from his own insecurities, stress, or unhappiness, or he is using it as a defense mechanism to avoid responsibility. It can also be a sign of deeper issues like narcissistic tendencies, poor communication skills, or an inability to manage his own emotions. In some cases, blame can be a form of emotional manipulation, also known as gaslighting.”

Overall pretty similar. You’re probably falling for selection bias, and only hearing the things you want to hear.

Are you aware that you just posted an AI summary and not an actual human perspective. Try reading the reddit results for real human examples. I am talking about human perceptions and dynamics here.

Yes, I am. The OP literally says “type it into google and see for yourself!” So I did.

Like I said. Selection bias. You said google it, google didn’t confirm your belief, so now you’re saying to seek out different websites that DO confirm your beliefs. Rather than taking an objective look at everything.

Like PP said, there are plenty of forums where the opposite is true. And there are plenty of people who do see nuance. You’re choosing to focus on what you want to hear.

Nobody would have thought that it would have been necessary to make a disclaimer about the concept that human opinion is the topic being discussed here. You are just arguing nonsense because you know that this dynamic is a real thing. The overwhelming social temperature is as described. Reddit is a generalist forum and cannot be discredited by the mere existence of an extremist men’s forum. I can literally find any fringe opinion conceivable online somewhere but that doesn’t preclude the discussion of obviously dominant social dynamics.

DP. I also googled this, and didn’t see this overwhelming social temperature. It looks like the advice is about the same for both genders.

These were the posts I saw on Reddit:

Q: “Why does my wife blame me for everything?”
A: she’s a narcissist. Get out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/...ings_if_i/

https://www.reddit.com/r/...verything/


Q: “why does my husband blame me for everything”
A: this is abusive. Get out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/...oes_wrong/


https://www.reddit.com/r/...e_him_for/

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I typed them into google and this is what I got:

“When your wife blames you for everything, it often indicates she is unhappy with the relationship, is unable or unwilling to take responsibility, or is using blame as a defense mechanism to protect her self-esteem. This behavior is a form of blame-shifting that can stem from deep-seated issues like insecurity, past experiences, or a need to feel in control. It can also be a sign of poor communication, emotional abuse, or a relationship that is in trouble”

“ Your husband may blame you for everything because he is deflecting from his own insecurities, stress, or unhappiness, or he is using it as a defense mechanism to avoid responsibility. It can also be a sign of deeper issues like narcissistic tendencies, poor communication skills, or an inability to manage his own emotions. In some cases, blame can be a form of emotional manipulation, also known as gaslighting.”

Overall pretty similar. You’re probably falling for selection bias, and only hearing the things you want to hear. [/quote]

Are you aware that you just posted an AI summary and not an actual human perspective. Try reading the reddit results for real human examples. I am talking about human perceptions and dynamics here.[/quote]

Yes, I am. The OP literally says “type it into google and see for yourself!” So I did.

Like I said. Selection bias. You said google it, google didn’t confirm your belief, so now you’re saying to seek out different websites that DO confirm your beliefs. Rather than taking an objective look at everything.

Like PP said, there are plenty of forums where the opposite is true. And there are plenty of people who do see nuance. You’re choosing to focus on what you want to hear. [/quote]

Nobody would have thought that it would have been necessary to make a disclaimer about the concept that human opinion is the topic being discussed here. You are just arguing nonsense because you know that this dynamic is a real thing. The overwhelming social temperature is as described. Reddit is a generalist forum and cannot be discredited by the mere existence of an extremist men’s forum. I can literally find any fringe opinion conceivable online somewhere but that doesn’t preclude the discussion of obviously dominant social dynamics. [/quote]

DP. I also googled this, and didn’t see this overwhelming social temperature. It looks like the advice is about the same for both genders.

These were the posts I saw on Reddit:

Q: “Why does my wife blame me for everything?”
A: she’s a narcissist. Get out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/xhgzl7/my_wife_has_a_habit_of_blaming_me_for_things_if_i/

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1c3k36k/wife_blames_me_for_everything/


Q: “why does my husband blame me for everything”
A: this is abusive. Get out.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/12m8pvr/husband_blames_me_for_everything_that_goes_wrong/


https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/n5jxoe/my_husband_35m_tells_me_i_blame_him_for/

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I typed them into google and this is what I got:

“When your wife blames you for everything, it often indicates she is unhappy with the relationship, is unable or unwilling to take responsibility, or is using blame as a defense mechanism to protect her self-esteem. This behavior is a form of blame-shifting that can stem from deep-seated issues like insecurity, past experiences, or a need to feel in control. It can also be a sign of poor communication, emotional abuse, or a relationship that is in trouble”

“ Your husband may blame you for everything because he is deflecting from his own insecurities, stress, or unhappiness, or he is using it as a defense mechanism to avoid responsibility. It can also be a sign of deeper issues like narcissistic tendencies, poor communication skills, or an inability to manage his own emotions. In some cases, blame can be a form of emotional manipulation, also known as gaslighting.”

Overall pretty similar. You’re probably falling for selection bias, and only hearing the things you want to hear.

Are you aware that you just posted an AI summary and not an actual human perspective. Try reading the reddit results for real human examples. I am talking about human perceptions and dynamics here.

Yes, I am. The OP literally says “type it into google and see for yourself!” So I did.

Like I said. Selection bias. You said google it, google didn’t confirm your belief, so now you’re saying to seek out different websites that DO confirm your beliefs. Rather than taking an objective look at everything.

Like PP said, there are plenty of forums where the opposite is true. And there are plenty of people who do see nuance. You’re choosing to focus on what you want to hear.

Nobody would have thought that it would have been necessary to make a disclaimer about the concept that human opinion is the topic being discussed here. You are just arguing nonsense because you know that this dynamic is a real thing. The overwhelming social temperature is as described. Reddit is a generalist forum and cannot be discredited by the mere existence of an extremist men’s forum. I can literally find any fringe opinion conceivable online somewhere but that doesn’t preclude the discussion of obviously dominant social dynamics.