Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 05:54     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
“Dating these days can feel like you are shopping at the flea market at closing time.” That’s hilarious, even though I do not an agree.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 05:41     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
You've missed them, OP. I'm 40 and all the men I know committed at least a decade or more ago. There's only been 1 who I saw finally got married, and his bride looked halfway through a pregnancy in the photos he posted to social media.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 02:50     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Anonymous wrote:You need to add value to his life, make his life easier and become indispensable or at least project the possibility of doing so. This assumes, of course, that you are dealing with a man of good character that wants to be in a monogamous relationship.

Absolute patriarchal horseshit.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 02:49     Subject: Re:What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Anonymous wrote:Too many whores out there. So many women will bang first meet, look for it online, don’t care if the for is married or already in a relationship. When free sex is everywhere- it’s a tough road.

You must be one of them yourself, if you are tearing down women so easily. I do not know of a single woman like that.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 02:43     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
A kind man does not make you change for him, twists you in a pretzel to please him, only narcissists do that.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 02:42     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Kind men, honest men, nice guys. It has nothing to do with the woman at all.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 01:44     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Anonymous wrote:OP I hate to break it to you but your post sounds pitiful. Don’t try and contort yourself for male approval. Men at the stage in life where you are, who are not yet settled down, are by and large selfish as heck. You can be as nice, docile, accommodating, and sex focused as you want….they will just take, and not offer true commitment. In the end you will feel like used crap.

A good one is a rare unicorn. The sooner you understand this, the happier you will be.


This.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that getting men to commit comes down to 2 things:

1. You have the ability to walk away (secure financially, lots of friends, lots of other options, look hot, etc)

2. You have high standards and WILL walk away the moment he doesn’t reach them.

Any man who says just be easy going and put out is lying. Those women get cheated on left and right. And as the saying goes - who do you ask how to catch a fish, the fish or the fisherwoman?
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 01:36     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Most of us married a lot earlier and had our family built by 35. We were always committed and were discounted by women who are ready to settle down at 35.

A number of us were also cheated on and find it hard to be in that position again, especially when we are still paying for past mistakes in the form of alimony.

The rest of the pool have never been the guy you want to settle down with for life.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 00:32     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Honestly I am not even that attractive and never had any problems finding guys who want to be monogamous with me. Granted this was years ago and I’m now married.

Being able to weed out scumbags, f boys, and cheaters is an important skill. I have always been very good at boundaries, reading people, and understanding their motivations. I’m not sure how much can be taught if you don’t if you don’t intrinsically have it.

My advice is to talk about exclusivity early and if he hedges at all, move on. Honestly I never even had to bring it up because most guys tried to lock it down early. Even better if he moves first to DTR.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2025 23:55     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
OP I hate to break it to you but your post sounds pitiful. Don’t try and contort yourself for male approval. Men at the stage in life where you are, who are not yet settled down, are by and large selfish as heck. You can be as nice, docile, accommodating, and sex focused as you want….they will just take, and not offer true commitment. In the end you will feel like used crap.

A good one is a rare unicorn. The sooner you understand this, the happier you will be.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2025 23:50     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
DEATH.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2025 23:47     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Sex and be easy going. That’s about it.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2025 23:43     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You give him lots of sexytime, it’s about that simple for the majority of guys.


Nope. Not sufficient and you'll get the wrong kind of guy.


Yes. Sufficient for at least 90% of guys. You will get a guy who will adore you forever.


Are you a guy?


Yes.
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2025 22:34     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You give him lots of sexytime, it’s about that simple for the majority of guys.


Nope. Not sufficient and you'll get the wrong kind of guy.


Yes. Sufficient for at least 90% of guys. You will get a guy who will adore you forever.


Are you a guy?
Anonymous
Post 11/26/2025 22:19     Subject: What makes a man commit to being faithful?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You give him lots of sexytime, it’s about that simple for the majority of guys.


Nope. Not sufficient and you'll get the wrong kind of guy.


Yes. Sufficient for at least 90% of guys. You will get a guy who will adore you forever.