I read and forgot most of “Bringing up Bebe” but I remember the concept of “a firm frame with an open center” which at least in my memory means giving a lot of freedom on most things so but being really firm about a handful of areas that are really important to you. For us it’s manners and safety including internet safety (still no Roblox for us and very very locked down devices). But my kids friends think we are ridiculously laid back about food and academics (but my kids are naturally active and thin and do well without input from me so I guess we have the luxury to be chill on those things). My biggest failure is how much my kids argue, so clearly my parenting style doesn’t address that well but
I think we have a relatively good relationship in other ways.

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Anonymous wrote:Authoritative with a Montessori flair. Permissive with a healthy dash of Tiger Parenting and a side of Forest School. Also I yell sometimes but try not to.

I’ve never thought much about this question but if I did i think I’d land here.

OMG this is hilarious and also +1

Anonymous wrote:Authoritative with a Montessori flair. Permissive with a healthy dash of Tiger Parenting and a side of Forest School. Also I yell sometimes but try not to.

I’ve never thought much about this question but if I did i think I’d land here.

Pretty laid back, I never read any parenting books or learned about the different styles and methods people use.

I try to be patient and not lose my cool when things get stressful. Often I'm successful, sometimes I'm not. I’ve always talked to them like adults. Not about overly adult stuff, but I respect their personhood and it’s important to me that they know that.

I mostly treat my kid as an equal and it works well enough, He's well behaved and manages his own chores so i really don't need to do much except for provide food clothes and other necessities.

Anonymous wrote:There was a term I heard when my kids were younger (they're 20-22) and I quite can't remember it, but it was akin to "intellectually neglectful" -- which struck me as my style. Where we provided opportunities for curiosity, travel, culture, and eduction, but I didn't hover or micromanage school and teachers.

We also entertained a lot, so they're adept at conversing with adults.

+1

Authoritative with a Montessori flair. Permissive with a healthy dash of Tiger Parenting and a side of Forest School. Also I yell sometimes but try not to.

No nonsense. I’m a single parent and I don’t have the time or energy for anything else. My kid is now 20 and seems pretty happy and not messed up by this approach. He still likes me and wants to spend time with me so that’s good.