Anonymous wrote:What a weird standoffish family.
+1 I know all families are different, but my relationship with my mom is so different than OP. I talk to my mom all the time. If this were a thing, we'd be constantly in touch about the injury, her appointments, and the assumption would be that we are spending Thanksgiving together. There would be an ongoing conversation about how we would make that happen. OP, just tell her you would like her to spend the day with your family and ask what you can do to make that happen.