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Anonymous wrote:Oh and also to add I wonder if this only happens to beautiful women because I noticed that I attract this type a lot. Either that or attractive men who are insecure are used to women chasing them and need that ego boost. When they're afraid of losing control is when they put down the woman.

Insecure men don't tend to get chased by women. Physically attractive or not. It takes a 9 to a 6.

My ex would get chased by women. When I met him he said he was used to women chasing him but he was deeply insecure but he was very attractive. I didn't chase him. I never chase men no matter how attractive they are. I always think a man should chase the woman because many men have deep-seated insecurities more so than women.

Anonymous wrote:You sound fat.

Anonymous wrote:I live in an area where the men are pretty crazy as well (literally they will demand upfront I need to cook for them before we've even met).

It's a numbers game. I got super clear what I wanted and swiped through about 6000 men. Chatted with maybe 100-200 of those, had a handful of dates, finally met a really great guy I am absolutely crazy about and who adores me.

The trick I've found is weed them out early and move on quickly. I work for a sales company, and when it comes to sales, you go in knowing 99% of people aren't qualified, so you ruthlessly weed them out so they're not wasting time on your calendar. Then it's really just a matter of meeting up to see if you vibe.

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Anonymous wrote:All you can do is be the type of match you want - transparent. You can improve transparency by posting a cute photo of you without makeup or extremely low-makeup and caption it something about your "natural "face. You can also add the dates to your photos. That suggests you are serious about representing yourself accurately.

Also - all these men who are shocked.SHOCKED by a woman looking different without makeup on. Have they never dated/lived with a woman before? Why is this such a shock?

Thank you but I disagree. I think people should represent themselves how they normally would dress or wear their makeup. Transparency is showing the real you so you are showing the real you when you are are wearing what you wear everyday. A new. It's a problem with a guy if he is reactive to that or not. It shows you what type of person they are.

Anonymous wrote:All you can do is be the type of match you want - transparent. You can improve transparency by posting a cute photo of you without makeup or extremely low-makeup and caption it something about your "natural "face. You can also add the dates to your photos. That suggests you are serious about representing yourself accurately.

Also - all these men who are shocked.SHOCKED by a woman looking different without makeup on. Have they never dated/lived with a woman before? Why is this such a shock?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and also to add I wonder if this only happens to beautiful women because I noticed that I attract this type a lot. Either that or attractive men who are insecure are used to women chasing them and need that ego boost. When they're afraid of losing control is when they put down the woman.

Insecure men don't tend to get chased by women. Physically attractive or not. It takes a 9 to a 6.

Anonymous wrote:Oh and also to add I wonder if this only happens to beautiful women because I noticed that I attract this type a lot. Either that or attractive men who are insecure are used to women chasing them and need that ego boost. When they're afraid of losing control is when they put down the woman.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty secure woman but I notice men in this area seem to have weird emotional instability especially the attractive ones. For example I use travel mode and few of the men in other states are rude or confrontational yet the ones in this area reek of insecurity and control. For ex some demand how I look without makeup glasses or contacts to see the natural me as their first message. Others send weird snarky emojis as their first message or go on about how they or their family are rich entrepreneurs in the area. Or say they date a lot of lawyer or doctors. It's so bizarre to disclose all that. The insecurity is crazy and only with DMV men. Wonder why.

This is rude, and I wouldn't respond.

But ... it's likely because they are tired of meeting people who look nothing like the pictures on the apps. This is a technique designed to get 1) a current picture, 2) a picture that isn't completely filtered + professional makeup. Women don't like it either when men show up 10 years older and 25 lbs heavier than their picture, oh, and the app pic had hair and the guy no longer does.