Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s 28 year old SO likes to sleep in. My daughter and I wake up hours earlier.
I would like to cook her breakfast, and eat myself, soon after getting up.

Do I then need to cook breakfast a second time when he wakes up? Or starve for hours waiting for him to rouse?

(Mind you, they both live hours away. This is on their infrequent visits)

You make your own breakfast. They can make their own. If you are making something special, make extra and leave it for them to warmup.

Only if you want to set her up for a lifetime of serving him.

Breakfast is DIY in my house. I stock up on staples (eggs, fruit, yogurt, cereal, toast/bagels) and ask houseguests to help themselves and clean up after themselves - it’s very informal. If I’m making scrambled eggs I will certainly ask anyone who’s up if they want some, but I’m an early riser and like to eat when I wake up, so I’m not waiting. I don’t think people are rude if they sleep in, though. They are welcome to help themselves to coffee and breakfast whenever they’re ready for it.

Either set aside a portion for him, make him breakfast fresh, or have him make his own breakfast - cereal, bagels, etc.

And think of his sleeping in as an opportunity to have one on one time with your daughter, not as him being rude..

Anonymous wrote:Eat with your daughter. He can fend for himself. Why are you worrying about this and not your grown daughter?

This.

If your daughter is not worried, you shouldn't worry either. Enjoy the time you spent with her.

He can grab some coffee when he's up!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eat with your daughter. He can fend for himself. Why are you worrying about this and not your grown daughter?

Because I enjoy cooking for her and her guests when they visit. (She is 3 years younger than him)

Was just not sure how to handle this situation, politely.

(I personally , would not sleep in for hours as a guest at someone’s house)

Let him sleep. This drives me crazy as a guest, especially for visiting family. I am using my vacation days (and early in a career those are limited) to come visit. Let me enjoy them, whether that means sleeping in or reading a novel while everyone else watches the football game. My mother in law can't stand to see me sleep or read.

One breakfast and it's very rude to sleep in while you are a guest in someone's home.

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why people decide to insult OP instead of offering an answer to her question?🤔

She got multiple answers to her question and her response was to reiterate that the boyfriend sleeps in (which she already said) but, this time, to point out that SHE would never sleep in when she was a guest in someone’s home. So… it’s doubtful she is looking for additional answers at this point, she just wants to vent about how he is rude in her mind by sleeping in.

OP, consider that this might be the father of your grandchildren in 5-10 years. Will you wish you made him feel LEAS welcome, MORE rude and out of place, when you were first getting to know him? Or will you wish you had been accepting and friendly and understanding that he isn’t a morning person, making your daughters family excited to come relax for the weekend at grandmas house over holidays?

Anonymous wrote:I wonder why people decide to insult OP instead of offering an answer to her question?🤔

If she truly is not aware of how passive aggressive her questions are, and she really wants to have a positive relationship, she should know.

I wonder why people decide to insult OP instead of offering an answer to her question?🤔

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eat with your daughter. He can fend for himself. Why are you worrying about this and not your grown daughter?

Because I enjoy cooking for her and her guests when they visit. (She is 3 years younger than him)

Was just not sure how to handle this situation, politely.

(I personally , would not sleep in for hours as a guest at someone’s house)

You buried the lede. You think he's rude, and you're wondering how passive aggressive you can be about breakfast by making up a "should I cook twice??" dilemma in your head when of course, no, you don't cook a second breakfast when he wakes up, you smile and say hello and let him know the waffles from the morning are on the counter if he would like any. But you already know the polite way to handle it, you just want to know how you can handle it "politely" while still letting him know he's being rude.

You say they are very infrequent guests. So you cook twice when they visit. It’s not gonna kill you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just tell him "We get up for breakfast at 7am and breakfast is at 7:30."

If he gets up at 11am, then he can have a bowl of cereal and some fruit.

Or ask your daughter if you all should save him a plate. The above is rude and implies he ought to be getting up then too. Nobody wants to do that.

This is the answer. It's fine to not want to be a short order cook (which the bf probably doesn't need or require) but there's no reason to be snippy hostess.

Pick another meal to share! Maybe focus on brunch that will be her first meal and your second after she wakes up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eat with your daughter. He can fend for himself. Why are you worrying about this and not your grown daughter?

Because I enjoy cooking for her and her guests when they visit. (She is 3 years younger than him)

Was just not sure how to handle this situation, politely.

(I personally , would not sleep in for hours as a guest at someone’s house)

Both in the original post and in this follow up, your tone doesn’t seem to indicate that you want to be polite. I am sure you know this already, but if your goal is to make him feel warmly welcomed I would discourage you from using language that is so judgmental.