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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

My kid has ADHD inattentive type and exec functioning disorder. I also do not check his portals or have his passwords.
I do however, remind him to check them and his emails, which he is terrible about. But he does eventually do it.
I don't think that doing it for him would be helpful to him in the long run. He'll fall flat on his face in college next year if he doesn't learn how to manage things (at least somewhat) himself. That said, it'll be a miracle if he learns to wake up on his own with an alarm clock.

I agree, you shouldn’t do so much for him. Reminders, absolutely. But logging in on his behalf and doing the application? No. If he’s not ready to even apply to a 4 year college then doing it for him isn’t going to help him succeed once he gets there. Maybe a gap year or a year or two at community college would be better than you holding his hand so much that he can’t do much on his own—your unintentionally setting him up to fail. His self esteem might also be harmed. No shame in doing a different path than the “norm,” especially if he has such severe adhd that he can’t handle such a big task. I bet he’ll do great when he finds his path! But he may do better if you let him lead the way more.

What's wrong with using an alarm clock? I didn't realize not using one was a badge of honor.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

My kid has ADHD inattentive type and exec functioning disorder. I also do not check his portals or have his passwords.
I do however, remind him to check them and his emails, which he is terrible about. But he does eventually do it.
I don't think that doing it for him would be helpful to him in the long run. He'll fall flat on his face in college next year if he doesn't learn how to manage things (at least somewhat) himself. That said, it'll be a miracle if he learns to wake up on his own with an alarm clock.

I agree, you shouldn’t do so much for him. Reminders, absolutely. But logging in on his behalf and doing the application? No. If he’s not ready to even apply to a 4 year college then doing it for him isn’t going to help him succeed once he gets there. Maybe a gap year or a year or two at community college would be better than you holding his hand so much that he can’t do much on his own—your unintentionally setting him up to fail. His self esteem might also be harmed. No shame in doing a different path than the “norm,” especially if he has such severe adhd that he can’t handle such a big task. I bet he’ll do great when he finds his path! But he may do better if you let him lead the way more.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

My kid has ADHD inattentive type and exec functioning disorder. I also do not check his portals or have his passwords.
I do however, remind him to check them and his emails, which he is terrible about. But he does eventually do it.
I don't think that doing it for him would be helpful to him in the long run. He'll fall flat on his face in college next year if he doesn't learn how to manage things (at least somewhat) himself. That said, it'll be a miracle if he learns to wake up on his own with an alarm clock.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a site where you can see your kids' application status, whether it's complete or something is missing. You don't have to log on to the individual portals for status check.

Best of all, allegedly you can see if an applicant is rejected early on in the process. For example, if the status says "decided" after a mere one week. The applicant may have been auto-rejected (GPA too low, SAT too low, etc) without committee review.

What site? Common app?

Anonymous wrote:There is a site where you can see your kids' application status, whether it's complete or something is missing. You don't have to log on to the individual portals for status check.

Best of all, allegedly you can see if an applicant is rejected early on in the process. For example, if the status says "decided" after a mere one week. The applicant may have been auto-rejected (GPA too low, SAT too low, etc) without committee review.

Anonymous wrote:Spoke to a mom who told me that she regularly checks her kid's portal to make sure all materials are in. I asked if her kid ever checks it and she said her kid doesn't even know the passwords. The mom seemed pretty proud of herself for helping her DC navigate the application process. Is it common for parents to be this involved and kids uninvolved? Seems a bit much to me.