I think women tend to divorce husbands who are duds
Men tend to divorce wives before a large windfall. Inheritance, stock options , a large promotion . It’s very known phenomenon to divorce lawyers - men riding high kn their careers at the expense of wife raising their kids, only to dump her for a newer model when he achieves career prime.

My friends husband approached her with a postnup request after 2 kids together who years marriage . His biotech company was about to go public. She didn’t sign and he divorced her. Now lives with a 20-years younger woman unmarried, they just had a baby

Anonymous wrote:100%. Our neighbor did. She divorced her husband because he lost his job after a long illness and she couldn't cope with the fact that they had to downsize and the "prestige" that came with her former husband's job was gone. DW told me she told her in a very nonchalant way as if it was no big deal. They were married for 12 years and had 2 kids under 10. DW told me the woman with her own mouth said their marriage was great but the fact he was struggling to find a job and that they had less money and could no longer afford the same lifestyle was the reason she divorced her husband.

This is sad and pathetic. I suspect the divorcing wife with the 2 children under 10 planned on nabbing a rich man on marriage #2.

Yes, especially if they don’t help out around the house and with kids. If they are a dead weight, the working spouses resentment will eventually trigger a divorce. Human nature.

Anonymous wrote:You could say that my sis in law divorced her husband after he lost his job but, boy, you'd be leaving a lot out. He was fired after he had a DUI, sat around all day playing video games and did no housework and then screamed at her when she got home.

This. "Spouse lost his job" is shorthand for a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know of it's common but one of the conditions for us to stay married is DH has a job

What are your DHs conditions for you?

I have to have a job too. Other mutual conditions are sharing household work and childcare.

Anonymous wrote:I doubt it’s that simple. But I feel differently about money now mid forties than I did before. We have a kid with SN and a kid with a serious medical condition. The ability to go see specialist in other cities into private pay for all of our special-needs. Kids is truly life-changing in a way that I don’t think you can understand if you have not been there.

Also I don’t think most people give the real/full story about why they are divorcing, nor should they have to.

I doubt it’s that simple. But I feel differently about money now mid forties than I did before. We have a kid with SN and a kid with a serious medical condition. The ability to go see specialist in other cities into private pay for all of our special-needs. Kids is truly life-changing in a way that I don’t think you can understand if you have not been there.

Anonymous wrote:100%. Our neighbor did. She divorced her husband because he lost his job after a long illness and she couldn't cope with the fact that they had to downsize and the "prestige" that came with her former husband's job was gone. DW told me she told her in a very nonchalant way as if it was no big deal. They were married for 12 years and had 2 kids under 10. DW told me the woman with her own mouth said their marriage was great but the fact he was struggling to find a job and that they had less money and could no longer afford the same lifestyle was the reason she divorced her husband.

I'm sure there was more to the story.

It’s common on dcum but not common in the real world. Here people advocate for, advise, or say they would divorce over any tiny little issue. But in the real world, that isn’t the reality of people I know at all.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know of it's common but one of the conditions for us to stay married is DH has a job

What are your DHs conditions for you?

I don't know of it's common but one of the conditions for us to stay married is DH has a job

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for people to file for divorce because their spouse lost their job? I am not talking about an unemployed spouse actively trying to find a job. I am talking about an unhappy spouse who is unhappy with the lifestyle change due to loss of income.

No. This is not common.

Next question please.

Yes it does happen pretty frequently

I’m so sorry to hear that you picked a crappy partner. At least when they go there won’t be anything to take and you can start fresh without her as an anchor.

I would expect that it’s around the same percentage who leave when their spouse becomes fat.