Anonymous
Post 11/19/2025 23:53     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
a live in is worth about 5/hour more than live out. ours is 16/hour if we got a live out it would be 20+/hour
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2025 23:40     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:OP. She would have a kitchenette and still have full access to our kitchen and anywhere else in the house whenever she wants. She's been with us for 1+ yr already and is very comfortable. She was always a live-in nanny until she began working for us, as we didnt have the space at the time, and she gave the impression that was her preference. We are now willing to convert nearly our entire walk-out basement into a nanny suite. I understand you cant deduct rent from wages, but as the job scope and needs will be entirely different when our youngest goes to school I do feel it's logical to redefine the role and terms. And from what Ive read, the idea of using an estimated value for the room & board as part of the total salary package is fair.


You cannot change he her rent because LIVING IN IS A REQUIREMENT OF THE JOB!
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2025 23:37     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Live in nannies make the same as live out and in some cases, more. They are living in and a convenience to you.


They better hold on to that job like gold.
Most don't get much at all as their living arrangement = rent and a huge portion of their salary.


If it is necessary for the nanny to live in then mother is no rent deduction.
Anonymous
Post 11/19/2025 23:35     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:We're a family in NWDC with 3 kids (8, 6, 2) exploring childcare options for when our youngest starts full time preschool. One parent has a job that requires frequent travel and has an unpredictable schedule, and the other has a predictable schedule but also travels ~5x/yr for 3-5 days at a time.
In order to guarantee childcare coverage, it seems a full time nanny will still be necessary for our situation despite not actually needing her help full time/year round. We're considering having our current nanny move in in order to bring down the out of pocket spend.
Responsibilities would be: breakfast/packing lunches and dropping off youngest in the mornings, light tidying/dishes/laundry/dinner prep for a few hours of her choice during the day, and childcare roughly 3-6pm.
I'd prefer not to buy groceries on her behalf as that is an additional time burden I cant take on, so meals shouldn't be included in "room and board" value.

Does anyone have a similar arrangement, and if so what is the hourly rate or annual wages?


You must be kidding!
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2025 00:53     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And I should clarify that this proposed new arrangement would still have her earning ~80k/yr or $30/hr. We are certainly not trying to take advantage of anyone.


That is one hella deal! Lucky gal who gets that job.


+1 80K a year plus free room and board sounds great.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2025 00:51     Subject: Re:Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:Honestly why have 3 kids in your situation?


Why be such a horse's a** and post if you have nothing productive to add? Are you suggesting they get rid of one of their kids?
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2025 00:43     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Since she has already been with you for a year, I think you can work out a contract you are both comfortable with. She already knows your lifestyle and knows you and how you function and what her dynamic is with you. If she wants to live in, then you negotiate the terms of the contract. Living with you is for your convenience, the upside for her would be saving on rent - so if you deduct potential rent from her salary - then what is the benefit to her? Why would she accept living in?

You aso need to work out potential overtime if you are both away and she is 'on' 24/7.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2025 00:42     Subject: Re:Live In Nanny Wages
you can't pay her less and expect her to stay working for you
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2025 00:28     Subject: Re:Live In Nanny Wages
I think if you have a live-in Nanny, then you also provide her meals as well.
That is what “board” actually is.

You should offer her general meals - - if she wants special food or has special dietary requests then that should be on her own dime.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 20:14     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you realize room and BOARD means food; right?

If you believe it will be such a burden to grocery shop for her, add that to her responsibilities.


Yes and I realize now I didnt explain my intention well in my original post - I would not be assigning a value to "board" because while we're happy to give her access to whatever is in the kitchen, we also go out to eat A LOT, and last minute decide to cook vs order in. Its just not doable for me to collect grocery and doordash orders or cater to an additional person's meal preferences when Im already working around a pescatarian, a nut allergy, a milk allergy and typical picky eating with young kids within our family of 5.


If you order in you offer her something. Ask her for the regualar stuff she likes or give her her money to stock what she likes.


She can help with grocery shopping and just have stuff delivered.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 20:14     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, you realize room and BOARD means food; right?

If you believe it will be such a burden to grocery shop for her, add that to her responsibilities.


Yes and I realize now I didnt explain my intention well in my original post - I would not be assigning a value to "board" because while we're happy to give her access to whatever is in the kitchen, we also go out to eat A LOT, and last minute decide to cook vs order in. Its just not doable for me to collect grocery and doordash orders or cater to an additional person's meal preferences when Im already working around a pescatarian, a nut allergy, a milk allergy and typical picky eating with young kids within our family of 5.


If you order in you offer her something. Ask her for the regualar stuff she likes or give her her money to stock what she likes.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 20:08     Subject: Re:Live In Nanny Wages
Honestly why have 3 kids in your situation?
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 19:35     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Live in nannies make the same as live out and in some cases, more. They are living in and a convenience to you.


They better hold on to that job like gold.
Most don't get much at all as their living arrangement = rent and a huge portion of their salary.


This doesn’t track with my experience. Live in Nannies usually make more in addition to room and board. That is standard. Anyone trying to offer something else can’t actually afford a live in nanny and is trying to take advantage of someone who may be desperate.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 19:03     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
Anonymous wrote:OP, you realize room and BOARD means food; right?

If you believe it will be such a burden to grocery shop for her, add that to her responsibilities.


Yes and I realize now I didnt explain my intention well in my original post - I would not be assigning a value to "board" because while we're happy to give her access to whatever is in the kitchen, we also go out to eat A LOT, and last minute decide to cook vs order in. Its just not doable for me to collect grocery and doordash orders or cater to an additional person's meal preferences when Im already working around a pescatarian, a nut allergy, a milk allergy and typical picky eating with young kids within our family of 5.
Anonymous
Post 11/15/2025 19:02     Subject: Live In Nanny Wages
By buy I mean shop for. Charge up a prepaid card.
She's already half cooking dinner.
Why not add that to her duties.
You have a cleaning service?