Anonymous wrote:I don't know a single adult who would allow their own and other underage kids to drink and get high in their home with their consent.

My SIL and BIL most certainly do. They have a DD who is the same age as my son. They are both 16. She is allowed to vape weed and is ALLOWED two beers per day. This has been going on for months. Needless to say, we only allow the kids to hang out while we are watching them.

I don't know a single adult who would allow their own and other underage kids to drink and get high in their home with their consent.

FYI, kids have shocking access to alcohol. Older siblings, fake ID’s, stealing, you name it. If your kid attends parties, it is absolutely present. Not that everyone partakes, but it’s present and a temptation. Most parents are in the dark, and either not home or just clueless. Just saying. I would not under any circumstances host a teen gathering unless it’s day time.

Anonymous wrote:we have a family in our neighborhood who does this. They have had the police called on them, talked about on the neighborhood listserv and their daughter has had most of her friends banned from hanging out with her.

I am hearing a rumor that she is a FCPS employee and someone contacted her employer about the illegal activity with the police reports attached.

This is what should happen! Yes!

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Anonymous wrote:We are parents that let our son drink with his friends. The parents we know are ok with it and agree. We don’t let anyone leave unless in an uber or with a parent. To each their own. Stop judging.

Supplying teenagers with alcohol is not a "to each their own" situation. You have piss-poor judgment.

It's also very much against the law.

In Montgomery County, you as an adult can be fined per under 21 drinker for buying, furnishing or ALLOWING them to drink. It’s $2500 for the first offense and $5000 for each additional offense. In this case, offense = individual. Not to mention you can be held liable for injuries, assaults etc. Why would you open yourselves up to that kind of liability?! So your kid thinks you’re cool?! No thanks.

Anonymous wrote:This is insanity. These parents are opening themselves up to all sorts of liability if something bad (car crash, alcohol poisoning, assault) should happen to one of the teens. They could lose everything financially as well as be criminally prosecuted. Who would risk that?
And yes, call me Karen all you want, my opinion still stands. It is so, so risky in so many ways.

We have kids at Bullis and some parents here will hire a bouncer/security guard type to watch over the kids at parties and even instructs the ones that have clearly had too much to drink water. It’s a lot of risk and honestly I think some parents are reliving their glory days through their kids. Shame.

I don’t know any parents who openly allow this, however I do know many kids “secretly” drink behind their parents backs. Including people like OP!

This is insanity. These parents are opening themselves up to all sorts of liability if something bad (car crash, alcohol poisoning, assault) should happen to one of the teens. They could lose everything financially as well as be criminally prosecuted. Who would risk that?
And yes, call me Karen all you want, my opinion still stands. It is so, so risky in so many ways.

Anonymous wrote:We are parents that let our son drink with his friends. The parents we know are ok with it and agree. We don’t let anyone leave unless in an uber or with a parent. To each their own. Stop judging.

Judging? What you are doing is literally illegal. You have more to worry about than people's judgment.

Absolutely drill into your teen that they are not to drive with anyone who has been drinking. Make sure they know how to use Uber for an unexpected incident. There is teen Uber one can set up I am told. Also let them know you will come get them no questions asked to keep them safe. This should go for alcohol, drugs or bring in uncompromising situations the teen did not expect.

I agree with the lady poster as it seems the drinking starts as doon as freshman year in some place with the 13-15 year olds. These kids can’t drive but that is no excuse to let the drinking start so early. In this case I think there is a clear line that decisions made about
alcohol for 16-18 while in the home are different. What you do for it allow with your teens even then should not involve others.
Values differ and the issue of exposure to alcohol and drugs needs to be an on-going conversation. As does that no means no for junior who is drinking and maybe wants to get busy! The best you can do is keep talking. have rules for your teens and stick to your
consewuences when lines are crossed.

Mom of 3 older and now college aged teens/young adults here and I think serving and/or turning a blind eye to drinking at 13-15 is insanity. 16 makes me uncomfortable but doesn't make me completely crazy. 17-18 I'm ok with and actually feel a little bit frustrated with the parents who across-the-board forbid this because their kids ask the rest our kids (and us parents by extension) to lie on their behalf all.the.time. I won't lie for a kid or house them for a sleepover after they were drinking but I've been asked to many times by my kids' friends and I hate(d) dealing with this.

Also, I have never served kids except for a sip of champagne at my kids' graduation parties. I'm actually sort of grateful that some other parents do serve the 18 year olds. They can have the liability. I don't want it.

Lastly------->Parents: FYI if your kid is sleeping over at other kids' houses in high school and never has friends sleep over at yours they are most likely drinking or doing other things regardless of how chaste you think they are. End of public service announcement.

Anonymous wrote:We are parents that let our son drink with his friends. The parents we know are ok with it and agree. We don’t let anyone leave unless in an uber or with a parent. To each their own. Stop judging.

I'll stop judging when you GET EDUCATED.

https://deconstructingstigma.org/guides/drinking-teen-brain

The earlier that kids drink, the higher the chance of alcoholism. The earlier the use of pot, the greater the chance of psychosis or other issues.

And it’s against the law. I can’t understand why people think it’s okay to teach their kids it’s okay to break the law.

I’d report anyone I knew who did this.