Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:51     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let’s focus on the bigger picture. You have a husband who likes to go to all-nude strip clubs and get lap dances at the very minimum. And he’s not even bothering to hide that from you. What else is he doing that you haven’t found out yet? Do you have an open marriage?


Oh no he definitely was hiding it… he didn’t fess up to the lap dance until I provided details showing that I definitely am aware of the payment and location.



Now what OP?
What are you going to do as a result of your husband paying for sex?

Consult the manual on what to do when you’re married to a john.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:46     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Let’s focus on the bigger picture. You have a husband who likes to go to all-nude strip clubs and get lap dances at the very minimum. And he’s not even bothering to hide that from you. What else is he doing that you haven’t found out yet? Do you have an open marriage?


Oh no he definitely was hiding it… he didn’t fess up to the lap dance until I provided details showing that I definitely am aware of the payment and location.



Now what OP?
What are you going to do as a result of your husband paying for sex?
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:45     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s innocent about a lap dance in a fully nude club? The woman is grinding on him and getting him off while his hands are God knows where. You’re okay with this?


+1

Trickle truthing. He only admits to what you can prove. Be sure, it's only the tip of the iceberg, and the tip of the iceberg is already really bad.


If she's lucky it was just the tip.

The tip of what? 🤣
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:43     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s innocent about a lap dance in a fully nude club? The woman is grinding on him and getting him off while his hands are God knows where. You’re okay with this?


+1

Trickle truthing. He only admits to what you can prove. Be sure, it's only the tip of the iceberg, and the tip of the iceberg is already really bad.


If she's lucky it was just the tip.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:43     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:I’d be kind of pissed about the $500. We make pretty good money, but that’s a lot to piss away on nothing. It would take me most of a work day to make that after taxes.

With $500 we could go out to a really fancy dinner. We could make a nice charitable donation at Christmas. We could fly one of the kids out to visit my mom. We could both get a really nice pair of shoes.

It really seems like a lot of money to just throw away.


Look he didn't WANT to spend it on a dinner with YOU. He didn't WANT to get you shoes or fly your kid to YOUR mom. HE wanted a hot sexy time with someone who isn't you.

Duh. You want to live your life like that? Is he the rich one?
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:40     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d be kind of pissed about the $500. We make pretty good money, but that’s a lot to piss away on nothing. It would take me most of a work day to make that after taxes.

With $500 we could go out to a really fancy dinner. We could make a nice charitable donation at Christmas. We could fly one of the kids out to visit my mom. We could both get a really nice pair of shoes.

It really seems like a lot of money to just throw away.

But you’re otherwise okay with your husband cavorting with a strange naked woman?


Both can be true!
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:37     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:I’d be kind of pissed about the $500. We make pretty good money, but that’s a lot to piss away on nothing. It would take me most of a work day to make that after taxes.

With $500 we could go out to a really fancy dinner. We could make a nice charitable donation at Christmas. We could fly one of the kids out to visit my mom. We could both get a really nice pair of shoes.

It really seems like a lot of money to just throw away.

But you’re otherwise okay with your husband cavorting with a strange naked woman?
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:32     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:I’d be kind of pissed about the $500. We make pretty good money, but that’s a lot to piss away on nothing. It would take me most of a work day to make that after taxes.

With $500 we could go out to a really fancy dinner. We could make a nice charitable donation at Christmas. We could fly one of the kids out to visit my mom. We could both get a really nice pair of shoes.

It really seems like a lot of money to just throw away.


Yes, we are in the same boat. We don’t just set $500 on fire and shrug our shoulders.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:26     Subject: Question about strip club payments
I’d be kind of pissed about the $500. We make pretty good money, but that’s a lot to piss away on nothing. It would take me most of a work day to make that after taxes.

With $500 we could go out to a really fancy dinner. We could make a nice charitable donation at Christmas. We could fly one of the kids out to visit my mom. We could both get a really nice pair of shoes.

It really seems like a lot of money to just throw away.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:13     Subject: Question about strip club payments

Ma’am you have bigger issues than that $500
Sounds like a divorce is headed your way ..

Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:12     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Look you likely are way too young to even have heard about the famous Bill Clinton "I did not have sex with that woman" and then "it depends what your definition if sex is.". That was BJs in the Oval butler's pantry among other things.

He paid money to a nude club and then to a person who got him off one way or the other or many ways.

That is the issue.







Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:07     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s innocent about a lap dance in a fully nude club? The woman is grinding on him and getting him off while his hands are God knows where. You’re okay with this?


OP here- no, I’m not ok with it. I’m trying to get a sense of what likely happened as a starting point. For starters, I would think that payment for a dance or VIP room entry would be paid directly to the club, and not to a dancer directly via Venmo. Is this correct? So my assumption is that the $500 “tip” is for extras

He had sex with the woman. End of story.


Is it even possible that it’s just a lap dance? I’m thinking no. But am curious

Is this a direct Venmo payment separate from the credit card charge to the club?


Yes- direct Venmo payment to individual, not the credit card payment to the club

Definitely fishy.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:06     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:Let’s focus on the bigger picture. You have a husband who likes to go to all-nude strip clubs and get lap dances at the very minimum. And he’s not even bothering to hide that from you. What else is he doing that you haven’t found out yet? Do you have an open marriage?


Oh no he definitely was hiding it… he didn’t fess up to the lap dance until I provided details showing that I definitely am aware of the payment and location.
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 15:04     Subject: Question about strip club payments
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s innocent about a lap dance in a fully nude club? The woman is grinding on him and getting him off while his hands are God knows where. You’re okay with this?


OP here- no, I’m not ok with it. I’m trying to get a sense of what likely happened as a starting point. For starters, I would think that payment for a dance or VIP room entry would be paid directly to the club, and not to a dancer directly via Venmo. Is this correct? So my assumption is that the $500 “tip” is for extras

He had sex with the woman. End of story.


Is it even possible that it’s just a lap dance? I’m thinking no. But am curious

Is this a direct Venmo payment separate from the credit card charge to the club?


Yes- direct Venmo payment to individual, not the credit card payment to the club
Anonymous
Post 11/11/2025 14:58     Subject: Question about strip club payments
How dumb is he to not even get cash at an ATM. I would really dig into his finances. There may be a lot more in his phone.