You two aren’t compatible in the sex dept.
Plus you can’t change him.

On to the next for you OP

My DH is great at the dirty talk and texting to get me warmed up before he gets home.

Anonymous wrote:I have this problem. He doesn’t like talking, but I really want to hear it. Sometimes I just imagine him saying things in my head. It works! Like when I narrate what the dog is saying.

What do you imagine him saying.

I have this problem. He doesn’t like talking, but I really want to hear it. Sometimes I just imagine him saying things in my head. It works! Like when I narrate what the dog is saying.

No, I like to hear the breathing. It is also nice to have music playing. Maybe if I started with a new partner who really wanted it, but if I did that with my wife now it would seem weird and awkward.

Anonymous wrote:I’m pretty vocal and like a lot of dirty talk during sex, but my current partner is almost completely silent. I don’t want to push him to do anything he’s uncomfortable with, but I’m starting to lose interest in sex. It’s just tough for me to get turned on, it just feels impersonal.

Is this just how men are? Is there anyway to get him to be more vocal?

I'm a pretty normal, successful guy. No weird fetishes or anything. But yes, I like to talk extremely dirty when having sex. It's a huge turn on....seems very natural actually.

I love it, my wife hates it and says its distracting. Most of my girlfriends before her liked it.

I would assume the majority of men like it, given that porn features it and porn is meant to cater to most male fantasies. I think you have an outlier.

I generally have not. But it's something that I would like to be better at. I have two things working against me. Growing up with a religious background to keep language clean and being a shy introvert. Dirty talk wasn't really a thing with my XW. With my current wife, not so much, either, but we've let some naughty words slip here and there. We're in a pretty dead bedroom, so the bedroom is something that needs to be sparked again.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I talk dirty but get shushed because it messes up fantasy reel she’s playing in her head that gets her over the hump. Maybe if I spoke in a Scottish Highlander accent?

I'm picturing Sean Connery from SNL Celebrity Jeopardy. Try this out and let us know how it goes.

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Anonymous wrote:There are billions of men. They vary a lot.

If you want your partner to do something he's not currently doing, you need to actually talk to him about it.

I’ve brought it up a few times, but he still doesn’t.

I guess we’re just not sexually compatible. Sucks, I really liked him otherwise.

You’re just bad at explaining yourself clearly.

I’ve asked outright and even said “call me XYZ” but he still can’t do it. Not sure how much more clear I can get.

You did what you should. You can’t be more clear. Move on and find yourself a better sex partner.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I talk dirty but get shushed because it messes up fantasy reel she’s playing in her head that gets her over the hump. Maybe if I spoke in a Scottish Highlander accent?

If you get wished that means you’re doing it the whole time. A phrase or question or an “oh f***” every now and then is good. Constant narration or an interrogation is not great.

At the very least men should make some noise. It’s weird AF to make live in a vacuum. My current BF is great at it. Not too much, not too crazy, just enough and I can follow his lead on what to say too. Women love manly grunts. I mean, is he even into it if he cums in silence??

Yes, I talk dirty but get shushed because it messes up fantasy reel she’s playing in her head that gets her over the hump. Maybe if I spoke in a Scottish Highlander accent?

We both do and I've learned what words do it for her and she has as well. We sometimes go to another place on another level with it.

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Anonymous wrote:There are billions of men. They vary a lot.

If you want your partner to do something he's not currently doing, you need to actually talk to him about it.

I’ve brought it up a few times, but he still doesn’t.

I guess we’re just not sexually compatible. Sucks, I really liked him otherwise.

You’re just bad at explaining yourself clearly.

I’ve asked outright and even said “call me XYZ” but he still can’t do it. Not sure how much more clear I can get.