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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I matched with a guy and we messaged for a bit, but then he stopped responding to my last message. Later, he reached out to apologize, saying he’d gotten busy. I saw the message but wasn’t sure if I wanted to continue the conversation, though I didn’t unmatch—so I guess part of me was still interested.

He followed up again with a really nice voice message, which won me over. We messaged a bit and had a video call. We talked about meeting in person, and I said I’d share my phone number on the app. I did and he replied with his number, which I found odd, since he already had mine. Why not just text me?

Anyway, I mentioned that I appreciated how busy he is, adding that my time is limited too—but I didn’t mean to suggest I didn’t want to hear from him soon.

Now I’m wondering: should I text him? I don’t want to seem desperate or like I’ll be the one initiating everything. I want a man who’s willing to pursue me.

Thoughts?

You sound like the type that wants to "unmatch" first so you can try to save face etc.

He should avoid you.

Save face? I haven’t met the guy and unless a date is arranged I will probably never encounter this person in my life.

Anonymous wrote:He is not into you. has other dates, and you might be a back up plann.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I matched with a guy and we messaged for a bit, but then he stopped responding to my last message. Later, he reached out to apologize, saying he’d gotten busy. I saw the message but wasn’t sure if I wanted to continue the conversation, though I didn’t unmatch—so I guess part of me was still interested.

He followed up again with a really nice voice message, which won me over. We messaged a bit and had a video call. We talked about meeting in person, and I said I’d share my phone number on the app. I did and he replied with his number, which I found odd, since he already had mine. Why not just text me?

Anyway, I mentioned that I appreciated how busy he is, adding that my time is limited too—but I didn’t mean to suggest I didn’t want to hear from him soon.

Now I’m wondering: should I text him? I don’t want to seem desperate or like I’ll be the one initiating everything. I want a man who’s willing to pursue me.

Thoughts?

You sound like the type that wants to "unmatch" first so you can try to save face etc.

He should avoid you.

Anonymous wrote:I matched with a guy and we messaged for a bit, but then he stopped responding to my last message. Later, he reached out to apologize, saying he’d gotten busy. I saw the message but wasn’t sure if I wanted to continue the conversation, though I didn’t unmatch—so I guess part of me was still interested.

He followed up again with a really nice voice message, which won me over. We messaged a bit and had a video call. We talked about meeting in person, and I said I’d share my phone number on the app. I did and he replied with his number, which I found odd, since he already had mine. Why not just text me?

Anyway, I mentioned that I appreciated how busy he is, adding that my time is limited too—but I didn’t mean to suggest I didn’t want to hear from him soon.

Now I’m wondering: should I text him? I don’t want to seem desperate or like I’ll be the one initiating everything. I want a man who’s willing to pursue me.

Thoughts?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think either of you are that into each other. You're probably both nice people but nobody is that busy to have not set up a meeting by now. And in my experience when you're both into each other it doesn't matter who did what when you're just happy to meet and chat

What you've got going on now seems exhausting. Seems like you both want something else but are too polite to just let this go

OP here- and note sure I agree with this. The conversation we had was very interesting and easy and I there’s definitely there’s mutual attraction.

I believe it maybe the case of what a couple of earlier posters mentioned that this is online dating after all, and I must admit there’s a larger pool for man to choose from, plus he might not be a man who pursues which would be an issue for me. I just have to accept that and move on if I don’t hear from him.

Thank you all who responded!

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, if the guy isn’t doing everything you want at this stage, move on. It’s not going to get better.

Everything? I get not dating someone who doesn't check most boxes but every last little thing?

Good luck in that case!

Men will be on their best behavior at the outset.

If they don’t meet the standard at that point, they never will.

He's not getting drunk and running over cats.

He's juggling apps and texting.

You get what you allow.

Good luck!

This. You want someone that is interested enough that you are not questioning it.

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a difficult woman who will be single until she changes her ways. What's wrong with making things easy for the guy to date you?

I have had much more luck when I let the woman pursue me, and act in an aloof manner toward my dates.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think either of you are that into each other. You're probably both nice people but nobody is that busy to have not set up a meeting by now. And in my experience when you're both into each other it doesn't matter who did what when you're just happy to meet and chat

What you've got going on now seems exhausting. Seems like you both want something else but are too polite to just let this go

OP here- and note sure I agree with this. The conversation we had was very interesting and easy and I there’s definitely there’s mutual attraction.

I believe it maybe the case of what a couple of earlier posters mentioned that this is online dating after all, and I must admit there’s a larger pool for man to choose from, plus he might not be a man who pursues which would be an issue for me. I just have to accept that and move on if I don’t hear from him.

Thank you all who responded!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think either of you are that into each other. You're probably both nice people but nobody is that busy to have not set up a meeting by now. And in my experience when you're both into each other it doesn't matter who did what when you're just happy to meet and chat

What you've got going on now seems exhausting. Seems like you both want something else but are too polite to just let this go

OP here- and note sure I agree with this. The conversation we had was very interesting and easy and I there’s definitely there’s mutual attraction.

I believe it maybe the case of what a couple of earlier posters mentioned that this is online dating after all, and I must admit there’s a larger pool for man to choose from, plus he might not be a man who pursues which would be an issue for me. I just have to accept that and move on if I don’t hear from him.

Thank you all who responded!