It's selfish in that the older two will end up parenting the younger sibling and managing aging parents . Most likely they are just trying to hold onto their youth and marriage as their only identity is parent.
I wouldn't do it intentionally, but not my life.

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Anonymous wrote:My 18- year old is out of the house and independent. What's it to him what we do in our home.
I was out of the house at 18.5. I moved to another continent and never looked back.

If you have a fully independent 18 year old I consider that a failure in parenting.

Well that’s a take.

Anonymous wrote:My guess would be an accident/surprise. I have friends with a similar dynamic and they say no baby is an accident because you know that what youre causes babies. So therefore don’t be surprised when it happens. If the people you know have the same logic they won’t be telling people it was an accident.

Also, not everyone wants to share if a baby was an accident. I wouldn’t if it were me. I wouldn’t want that getting back to my child someday.

Oooh those ovurries! I wonder how much they spent to get a healthy fetus.
Plan B works. Medical abortion works. Entitlement works. Obviously they picked Plan C.

Why do you care? my younger siblings are 13 and 14 years younger than me and its awesome.

It’s a pretty common pattern in the DC area - first one or two kids really young, mom goes to college and gets good job, then second marriage/baby in late 30s early 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:My 18- year old is out of the house and independent. What's it to him what we do in our home.
I was out of the house at 18.5. I moved to another continent and never looked back.

If you have a fully independent 18 year old I consider that a failure in parenting.

So adult children should be helicoptered and coddled into oblivion?

You know an 18 year old can go to war, right?

because they wanted another child? why not? why do you care what another family does?

Anonymous wrote:My 18- year old is out of the house and independent. What's it to him what we do in our home.
I was out of the house at 18.5. I moved to another continent and never looked back.

If you have a fully independent 18 year old I consider that a failure in parenting.

It’s not something I would do but what the heck do I care about other people’s decisions? Stop being such a judgy B, OP. You might also not know the real story. My cousin told everyone who asked that her last child (15-year age gap with youngest) was planned but she privately confided in a few of us that it was very much an unexpected pregnancy and she had thought her missing period was menopause.

I have a friend who did something similar because she felt like she missed out on her older children's childhood because of work demands, and now her career gives her more flexibility. I wouldn't want to start over, but I don't judge those who do.

Are there two parents? Even if the athlete does need a parent there or just wants a parent, I am not sure how this prevents that?

I'm confused about why the olympic level athlete has to stop competing at 18/20. Is it because they can't travel alone? That seems implausible. Is it because of money? If so, that's rough, but seems like there might be ways to seek funding or sponsorships.

I would assume these parents had their older teens in their mid 20s and are starting over in their mid 40s. Which honestly, around here, is not too unusual.

I wouldn't want to do it! But I get it.

Why do you care? Maybe they love parenting and are thrilled to be parenting a small child once again.

Anonymous wrote:Because you want another child, and you can. Also, it’s not taking away from an 18 and 20 year old; they should launched or close to it.

Lol. One is on college and the other one is finishing HS. Far from being launched. But if you have the money…