Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:27     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
I assume so. Especially since we are in an awful patch in our marriage and there’s no intimacy. I do too.

I suggested watching it together years ago when things weren’t bad between us and he shut that down. That was one of many reasons I came to understand he will never be the kind of lover I need.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:23     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Curious - if a spouse does have an issue with it, why?


I have an issue with it. I feel like it gives DH a skewed perception of how sexually adventurous most married women with kids are.
Like he wants me to go to these resorts or hotel takeovers where people have group sex, and I’m not interested.
Then I ask him to look at whatever porn he is watching as a sexy thing, and he shows me this “amateur” video of this couple going to one of these hotel takeovers. They show them beforehand, and the wife is acting all nervous, etc. I think that since he watches so much of this stuff, he thinks these are kind of typical women, and I am some kind of prude. Or maybe not typical, but like 1-2 standard deviations above the mean. But these are women who are making money by having sex and putting it on the internet. The way they are acting is fake. And these little conversations are fake. And this is a very small minority of women.


You know there a variety of porn genres?

Do you know what type your spouses watches?
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:19     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:Has this ever been a problem in a relationship for you?


just wait. we will have female robots that will look and feel amazing.

I cant wait.

to be able to have amazing sex without a mouth attached.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:18     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:Who doesn’t watch porn?


This where humanity is now when it's considered abnormal to not watch crap created by creeps. Sad.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:11     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Probably? Honestly have no clue. We have a very happy and healthy sex life so if he does, it doesn't matter much to me. I also am definitely the more adventurous and kinky one, so it hasn't warped anything for him. I also watch it.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:09     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They all do even when they say they don’t.


No they don't.


They very much do. You’re just naive.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:07     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
My husband watches daily and hid it our entire marriage. It has ruined our relationship.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 08:06     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Curious - if a spouse does have an issue with it, why?


I have an issue with it. I feel like it gives DH a skewed perception of how sexually adventurous most married women with kids are.
Like he wants me to go to these resorts or hotel takeovers where people have group sex, and I’m not interested.
Then I ask him to look at whatever porn he is watching as a sexy thing, and he shows me this “amateur” video of this couple going to one of these hotel takeovers. They show them beforehand, and the wife is acting all nervous, etc. I think that since he watches so much of this stuff, he thinks these are kind of typical women, and I am some kind of prude. Or maybe not typical, but like 1-2 standard deviations above the mean. But these are women who are making money by having sex and putting it on the internet. The way they are acting is fake. And these little conversations are fake. And this is a very small minority of women.


I will add that it’s an extremely small percentage of middle aged married women with kids and a professional career. It’s not like some of the couples at the neighborhood bbq go to Hedonism on a couples trip while we lamely go to a vanilla beach resort.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 07:53     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:Curious - if a spouse does have an issue with it, why?


I have an issue with it. I feel like it gives DH a skewed perception of how sexually adventurous most married women with kids are.
Like he wants me to go to these resorts or hotel takeovers where people have group sex, and I’m not interested.
Then I ask him to look at whatever porn he is watching as a sexy thing, and he shows me this “amateur” video of this couple going to one of these hotel takeovers. They show them beforehand, and the wife is acting all nervous, etc. I think that since he watches so much of this stuff, he thinks these are kind of typical women, and I am some kind of prude. Or maybe not typical, but like 1-2 standard deviations above the mean. But these are women who are making money by having sex and putting it on the internet. The way they are acting is fake. And these little conversations are fake. And this is a very small minority of women.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 07:39     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:Who doesn’t watch porn?


I don’t. Bad for humans.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 07:08     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Who doesn’t watch porn?
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 06:08     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Curious - if a spouse does have an issue with it, why?


My dh at one time watched it often and never wanted to have sex with me even though I always initiated. I would try to initiate and he would tell me what's wrong with you. I then point blank confronted him and told him I scooped on his phone history and seen his usage. This was about 13 years ago and I never understood his hiding it because at one time we had a large DVD collection of porn that we would watch at least 2-3 times weekly.


Yea, I think there’s a difference between men who use occasionally to get off but otherwise have healthy sex/relationships, and men who just prefer a screen to a real person. My ex was the latter, and even when he stopped porn to make me happy (we had sex maybe once a month, and only when I begged), he just replaced porn with spending hours a day stalking women’s FB profiles. Not even sexual stuff, just regular women. Some men just aren’t interested in women in real life.


Omg, this is my husband! Same. It’s so weird and lonely and humiliating.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 00:11     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Curious - if a spouse does have an issue with it, why?


My dh at one time watched it often and never wanted to have sex with me even though I always initiated. I would try to initiate and he would tell me what's wrong with you. I then point blank confronted him and told him I scooped on his phone history and seen his usage. This was about 13 years ago and I never understood his hiding it because at one time we had a large DVD collection of porn that we would watch at least 2-3 times weekly.


Yea, I think there’s a difference between men who use occasionally to get off but otherwise have healthy sex/relationships, and men who just prefer a screen to a real person. My ex was the latter, and even when he stopped porn to make me happy (we had sex maybe once a month, and only when I begged), he just replaced porn with spending hours a day stalking women’s FB profiles. Not even sexual stuff, just regular women. Some men just aren’t interested in women in real life.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 23:04     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he does. But only with the AP. I don’t really care what those two are up to as long as his paycheck hits the account.


The most levelheaded AP post I’ve ever seen here
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 23:01     Subject: Does your DH watch pornography?
Anonymous wrote:Curious - if a spouse does have an issue with it, why?


My dh at one time watched it often and never wanted to have sex with me even though I always initiated. I would try to initiate and he would tell me what's wrong with you. I then point blank confronted him and told him I scooped on his phone history and seen his usage. This was about 13 years ago and I never understood his hiding it because at one time we had a large DVD collection of porn that we would watch at least 2-3 times weekly.