Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 22:36     Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Hi OP, suggest you also request a 6:30am to 3pm schedule. The company can't deny yours. Otherwise, they discrinmiate. Then you will not need to cover her from 3pm to 5pm.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 22:05     Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.


No. Not really.

OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.

If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.

Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.

Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.

Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.


But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.

Hope that helps!
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 21:07     Subject: Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The issue is that you have to cover her work, right? What are the specific duties that need to be done and could they wait until she comes back? Is there someone else that can cover? Why does her work need to be done when she's out but yours does not? How long do the extra tasks actually take?

You need to gather concrete info on how this is impacting you and take it to your boss. Otherwise it sounds like you're just upset she has a better deal than you got when you were in a similar position.



I agree. You sound like you are just jealous that she has such a good deal. But, the only thing that really impacts you is your obligation to cover. If you can do that and still get your work done, then there is no issue. If you can't get your work done, you better have good, concrete and identifiable things that aren't happening and why covering for your coworker is the cause. Right now, you just sound jealous.

And, if I'm remembering correctly, you posted when this was a possibility and weren't happy even before it happened. That makes your complaints even more suspect.


I doubt the coworker even thinks that it is a good deal. She has to get up at an absurd hour and all her PTO is taken up by child care. It also sounds like the family can’t afford the extra child care. Whereas OP gets to take vacations. Also, I’m guessing that the coworker is picking up work from 6:30am to when OP arrives. A lot of my tasks come in after hours.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 20:33     Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:It seems a lot of the responses are from parents who have a similar situation as the coworker.

I have no kids and I'm against OP.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 20:32     Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.


No. Not really.

OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.

If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.

Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.

Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.

Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 20:30     Subject: Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:So do you think she should just quit and be a SAHM mom like you were? Seems like you have it all figured out and she should be more like you.

I got this impression too.

Women tearing other women down, what a great way to build the workplace for women!
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 20:24     Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Like others said, plan days off on school holidays. Veterans Day is coming up. How does she have so much PTO anyway? I’d be annoyed too.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 20:21     Subject: Coworker PTO
Would love to know who covers for you when you take your PTO
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 20:12     Subject: Coworker PTO
If the company agreed to let her move her hours up outside of normal business hours, then her tasks can wait until she returns the next day. Stop taking on her work in the 2 hours she’s not there, it’s going to impact your workload.

When she’s out a full day(s), respond to urgent items that do not impact your workload. If they do, they can wait until she gets back.

Find someone to back you up when you are OOO.

Drop your judgmental attitude that you were a SAHM and didn’t work when your kids were young. It’s good for society that women work.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 20:11     Subject: Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:The issue is that you have to cover her work, right? What are the specific duties that need to be done and could they wait until she comes back? Is there someone else that can cover? Why does her work need to be done when she's out but yours does not? How long do the extra tasks actually take?

You need to gather concrete info on how this is impacting you and take it to your boss. Otherwise it sounds like you're just upset she has a better deal than you got when you were in a similar position.



I agree. You sound like you are just jealous that she has such a good deal. But, the only thing that really impacts you is your obligation to cover. If you can do that and still get your work done, then there is no issue. If you can't get your work done, you better have good, concrete and identifiable things that aren't happening and why covering for your coworker is the cause. Right now, you just sound jealous.

And, if I'm remembering correctly, you posted when this was a possibility and weren't happy even before it happened. That makes your complaints even more suspect.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 19:57     Subject: Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:You should look ahead at some of those school holidays and make your vacations overlap, so everyone can see that the place either does or does not fall apart when you’re not around to cover.

Yes, do this.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 19:52     Subject: Coworker PTO
The issue is that you have to cover her work, right? What are the specific duties that need to be done and could they wait until she comes back? Is there someone else that can cover? Why does her work need to be done when she's out but yours does not? How long do the extra tasks actually take?

You need to gather concrete info on how this is impacting you and take it to your boss. Otherwise it sounds like you're just upset she has a better deal than you got when you were in a similar position.

Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 19:40     Subject: Coworker PTO
Start scheduling leave on the school holidays coming up and explain she will have to find someone else to cover
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 19:38     Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
It seems a lot of the responses are from parents who have a similar situation as the coworker.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2025 19:20     Subject: Coworker PTO
You should look ahead at some of those school holidays and make your vacations overlap, so everyone can see that the place either does or does not fall apart when you’re not around to cover.