Anonymous
Post 10/27/2025 10:02     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:DH has long figured out the key to sex is to not make it an expectation. His “game” is to run me a hot bath. He will usually put in epson salts and top it off with bubbles. He makes sure my AirPods are charged. He then brings me a bottle of water and a glass of wine. He turns out the lights in the bathroom and walks away.

When I’m done he has changed the sheets on the bed. I climb into crisp cool sheets. He puts on one of my favorite shows and invites me to snuggle up to him. Sometimes I just crash but usually cuddling leads to kissing which leads to his end game.

Seriously?
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2025 08:18     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Birthday, holiday, anniversary etc, there’s probably a 70% chance that we’re doing it but if one of us is going away on an airplane or a solo trip we are doing it the night before, it is nonnegotiable.


How old are you?


We’re both 50, it’s been this way since we first got together, if one of us is going away we are having sex the night before or day of travel. It’s an anxious response to separating, if the plane goes down or train derails I want our last memory to be beautiful.
Anonymous
Post 10/27/2025 00:14     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH has long figured out the key to sex is to not make it an expectation. His “game” is to run me a hot bath. He will usually put in epson salts and top it off with bubbles. He makes sure my AirPods are charged. He then brings me a bottle of water and a glass of wine. He turns out the lights in the bathroom and walks away.

When I’m done he has changed the sheets on the bed. I climb into crisp cool sheets. He puts on one of my favorite shows and invites me to snuggle up to him. Sometimes I just crash but usually cuddling leads to kissing which leads to his end game.


You sound exhausting. No man should have to put in that work just to have sex. I'd go get it elsewhere for a hell of a lot less effort.


Hmmm, mine does things like this regularly but it’s not with the expectation of sex. He just likes doing nice things for me. But we have a good sex life (2-4 times a week), it’s just not attached to any particular “do this so I’ll be in the mood”. If he stopped doing nice things for me, I’m sure I’d lose some interest in sex.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 23:49     Subject: Re:Sex on important dates
We usually don’t because usually we are both ready to just be done with the day. We are happily married.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 21:51     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:DH has long figured out the key to sex is to not make it an expectation. His “game” is to run me a hot bath. He will usually put in epson salts and top it off with bubbles. He makes sure my AirPods are charged. He then brings me a bottle of water and a glass of wine. He turns out the lights in the bathroom and walks away.

When I’m done he has changed the sheets on the bed. I climb into crisp cool sheets. He puts on one of my favorite shows and invites me to snuggle up to him. Sometimes I just crash but usually cuddling leads to kissing which leads to his end game.


Jesus, I am glad I'm not married to you. My wonderful DW does not make me jump through hoops just to have sex.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 21:06     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:Anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas. Does this happen in your relationship or you don’t worry about it?


If you're having sex regularly than a little something extra on a jolit is romantic. If it's semi-annual obligation/pity sex than it's more insulting than not having sex at all.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 20:40     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas. Does this happen in your relationship or you don’t worry about it?


That is silly to put additional pressure on events like that.

Sex should be spontanious not planned.


Female here. I’d be PISSED to not get sex on such important dates. I’m dressed up, looking nice, feeling festive, and … nothing?? The spontaneity can be which positions. lol.

I actually have a close friend who marks sex on her calendar. It lets her get herself feeling sexy and hot. She likes it planned. Wouldn’t work for me, but it does for her marriage.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 20:32     Subject: Sex on important dates
A zillion of my friends have September birthdays because their parents had sex around Christmas or New Years. And a lot of women I know got pregnant after our friends weddings. Occasions where married people drink a lot tend to lead to sex.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 20:14     Subject: Sex on important dates
Nope, she has no drive and doesn’t think it is worth it to make me happy.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 19:40     Subject: Sex on important dates
Hells yeah it happens on important days. I’m the last present he unwraps on Christmas Day.

The only reason we would have sex on important days is if I’m on my period. It kills the mood and he’s not into that.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 19:36     Subject: Sex on important dates
Only 9/11
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 19:22     Subject: Sex on important dates
No way. Too tired from whatever event just happened and too full from a special meal.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 19:17     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:Birthday, holiday, anniversary etc, there’s probably a 70% chance that we’re doing it but if one of us is going away on an airplane or a solo trip we are doing it the night before, it is nonnegotiable.


How old are you?
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 18:51     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas. Does this happen in your relationship or you don’t worry about it?


This is an indication of a bad sex life.


Np but we always make sure we do it on those days, but also have sex between 2-4 times a week. 25 years married, so don’t think there’s a problem.
Anonymous
Post 10/26/2025 18:16     Subject: Sex on important dates
Anonymous wrote:Anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas. Does this happen in your relationship or you don’t worry about it?


That is silly to put additional pressure on events like that.

Sex should be spontanious not planned.