Anonymous
10/25/2025 23:14
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter if DH would make a fortunate in this project or not because you don’t support him in the endeavor.
Whether that is okay in your marriage is for a separate post but as someone who started an 8 figure company from nothing, I can tell you that it would have been impossible if DH didn’t believe in me. Looking back it was utterly crazy. But we were young and he had complete faith in me.
Good for you, pp! What type of business is it? Does it use your education? Was your DH wealthy first with something else? Many men would not support their wives on a risky venture.
We were not wealthy but he made a great salary. We were both straight out of school with negative net worths. We have alway been 100% there for each other. I cannot imagine a marriage working any other way. We are both men, though. I wouldn’t think that would affect the marriage dynamic in supporting the other but perhaps I’m mistaken.
Anonymous
10/25/2025 14:27
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
Anonymous wrote:He is going to do this, perseverating, instead of getting another job tombe fired from. Divorce.
Would you say this if the spouse was a woman focused on an MLM?
Anonymous
10/25/2025 13:27
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
A business plan is a good idea. He should be providing additional details like how much money has he spent already, how much more does he need and when will this project be completed? If he balks at any of this, he has no plan.
Anonymous
10/25/2025 12:26
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
He is going to do this, perseverating, instead of getting another job tombe fired from. Divorce.
Anonymous
10/25/2025 11:50
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
Anonymous wrote:Reasonable would be zero dollars until he gets another job.
It's a sensitive issue. A divorce would be more expensive than some limited amount of future money spent on this hobby.
Anonymous
10/25/2025 11:47
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
Reasonable would be zero dollars until he gets another job.
Anonymous
10/25/2025 11:44
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
Anonymous wrote:OP what if you viewed this more as a hobby than as a business venture? It would remove the expectation that it would make money in the future (but hooray if it does). Like many couples where spending style doesn't line up, you could each have "play" accounts where equal amounts of expendable cash are put. He can use his on his business, and you can use yours for savings or your own hobby or whatever.
Once your DH has an actual income stream (or at least begin executing a solid business plan?), then you can reconsider moving it from "hobby" to actual job and drop the separate accounts.
However when it's an actual business you need the separate accounts more, because some are business acounts.
Anonymous
10/25/2025 11:43
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
Anonymous wrote:OP what if you viewed this more as a hobby than as a business venture? It would remove the expectation that it would make money in the future (but hooray if it does). Like many couples where spending style doesn't line up, you could each have "play" accounts where equal amounts of expendable cash are put. He can use his on his business, and you can use yours for savings or your own hobby or whatever.
Once your DH has an actual income stream (or at least begin executing a solid business plan?), then you can reconsider moving it from "hobby" to actual job and drop the separate accounts.
This seems like a good approach.
Overall, this seems like a really tough issue which could end your marriage if you don't approach what is (logically or not) his life's passion with some respect.
I say this as a person who quit her job and started a business, but it turned a profit from the start. It is still challenging in that my spouse doesn't love how I do this work at home and it takes up quite a bit of the storage and other space in our small home. But, if it didn't at least turn a significant profit, I have no doubt that I wouldn't be doing it.
Anonymous
10/25/2025 11:15
Subject: Husband wants to invest in his project while unemployed
OP what if you viewed this more as a hobby than as a business venture? It would remove the expectation that it would make money in the future (but hooray if it does). Like many couples where spending style doesn't line up, you could each have "play" accounts where equal amounts of expendable cash are put. He can use his on his business, and you can use yours for savings or your own hobby or whatever.
Once your DH has an actual income stream (or at least begin executing a solid business plan?), then you can reconsider moving it from "hobby" to actual job and drop the separate accounts.
Once your DH has an actual income stream (or at least begin executing a solid business plan?), then you can reconsider moving it from "hobby" to actual job and drop the separate accounts.