Anonymous
Post 10/23/2025 14:51     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Regrets
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2025 14:49     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?

Stay home OP.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2025 13:57     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
A, if you have someone like a parent or IL that can watch them at home.
Anonymous
Post 10/23/2025 13:34     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.


+1
This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2025 00:05     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn't think Europeans did "adults only" weddings.


Its a destination wedding IN Europe. Meaning... the people getting married are NOT from there.


Then they should not impose silly American traditions.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 19:02     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Anonymous wrote:Send regrets unless I wanted to go to Europe. Or let the spouse closest to the couple go alone.


This. It all depends how much you actually feel like going. A destination wedding stops being just about the wedding and the couple getting married, but also about the destination.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 18:57     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.


This
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 18:56     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Anonymous wrote:I didn't think Europeans did "adults only" weddings.


Its a destination wedding IN Europe. Meaning... the people getting married are NOT from there.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 18:55     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Send regrets. They don't really want you there.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 18:55     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Anonymous wrote:If you were invited to an adult only wedding in Europe, what would you do?

A. Leave kids home
B. Take kids and get a sitter during wedding festivities
C. Send regrets

Option B but only if I was really close to the couple like a sibling or best friend. Otherwise C.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 16:45     Subject: Re:Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Option C, or only one of us goes (whoever’s friend or relative it is)
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 16:00     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
If you don’t have care for your children - C
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 16:00     Subject: Re:Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
Anonymous wrote:golly, seems like it would depend on about a dozen personal factors.


Yes, this.

For most of us, money and time are finite, so we'd have to decide if we could afford/want to prioritize attending a wedding in Europe without our kids. Mine are middle schoolers but I doubt I'd get them a sitter in Europe even though we have them here all the time.

If we had the time and money, I'd go with my husband and leave the kids here. If we didn't, I'd send my regrets.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 15:59     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
I would only go if it were my sibling, and their first wedding. And only I would go.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2025 15:43     Subject: Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?
If a destination wedding involves taking time off work, i only go if (i) i'm really, really close to the people getting married; or (ii) it's a destination I want to use my own vacation time to attend.

That really limits the list to only a handful of weddings during the kid years, so we've generally asked grandparents to watch.