Anonymous wrote:My (non athlete) college student would hate if we visited her that often. She competes at a different activity and we only plan to attend if her team make the championships. Are athletes less independent than non athletes?

I also think it would be strange if I showed up to my kid’s debate or marketing club, but football is the most popular sport in American and college football is the top amatre level with some stadiums holding over 100 thousand fans. I’m pretty sure that I would also attend my kids play, orchestra performance or a football game if my get was in the marching band. I support my kids 100% and always show up to their games and other activities. Why would college be any different?

Anonymous wrote:My (non athlete) college student would hate if we visited her that often. She competes at a different activity and we only plan to attend if her team make the championships. Are athletes less independent than non athletes?

It's the parents not the students.

My (non athlete) college student would hate if we visited her that often. She competes at a different activity and we only plan to attend if her team make the championships. Are athletes less independent than non athletes?

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Anonymous wrote:Assume your son’s college is a plane ride away, as are all the away games. Does one or both parents fly out to watch the game and pay for hotels?

Trying to think ahead here for next year

That sounds insane to even consider.

Explain?

For the sake of discussion, assume that our son is the last to leave the nest, so there’s no teenagers at home. We do have a dog, but my sister will happily take that dog for the weekend so pet sitting isn’t a problem.

We can pretty easily afford plane tickets and hotels if we plan well in advance and select economy flights

It's just anti sport trolls. I couldn't imagine not going to every game possible. And football makes it relatively easy with (mostly) Saturday games and relatively few games compared to other sports. Basketball or baseball would be much tougher to go to all of the games.

Wrong. I posted above and am 100% pro sport. My kids have been year round athletes since they were toddlers (same sport) and I maybe missed 2 games ever. I still think it’s crazy to go to every game in HS.

What is crazy about going to 11 or 12 games over a 3 month period?

It’s not insane. I did it. The cost of 10 nights of hotels at $250 apiece is $2500.

Our flights are usually only 100 round-trip. Sometimes we drove.

My son went to college in Boston.

The first year we went to every game, but we had a child at home. So we either included one of us or all three of us. My junior said he would have a party if we left them at home alone. He was just being honest and he said his friends would pressure him into it so…

The second year was Covid so… we didn’t have a year, the third year was post Covid and parents weren’t allowed to attend.

For the next three years we went to almost every game. He ended up with two years of extra eligibility and went to graduate school.

Every game has pregame with parents, a post game for the players and parents, then there was a gathering with all the senior and junior parents.

We either flew up or drove up the day of and drove back the next day.

It is so much fun. I wouldn’t have done it any other way.

He did have a really bad injury and yeah, I was very happy to be there. I couldn’t imagine watching it on TV.

My friend son played basketball and she went to every game which to me I was in the same because they have multiple games a week and their season is so much longer.

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Anonymous wrote:Assume your son’s college is a plane ride away, as are all the away games. Does one or both parents fly out to watch the game and pay for hotels?

Trying to think ahead here for next year

That sounds insane to even consider.

Explain?

For the sake of discussion, assume that our son is the last to leave the nest, so there’s no teenagers at home. We do have a dog, but my sister will happily take that dog for the weekend so pet sitting isn’t a problem.

We can pretty easily afford plane tickets and hotels if we plan well in advance and select economy flights

It's just anti sport trolls. I couldn't imagine not going to every game possible. And football makes it relatively easy with (mostly) Saturday games and relatively few games compared to other sports. Basketball or baseball would be much tougher to go to all of the games.

Wrong. I posted above and am 100% pro sport. My kids have been year round athletes since they were toddlers (same sport) and I maybe missed 2 games ever. I still think it’s crazy to go to every game in HS.

What is crazy about going to 11 or 12 games over a 3 month period?

It depends. If my work schedule and finances permit, I would try to get to most games. This particularly applies to football where almost all games are on weekends. If I had a soccer player with more games and a bunch of them mid-week, unlikely.

My neighbor's child is a freshman soccer player at a SLAC about two hours away. So they are able to relatively easily day trip to most of the weekend games. The parents are self-employed and fairly wealthy so they could likely get to the mid-week games but I don't think they do.

What I'm curious about is if you go to most games, how much do you interact with your child while there? You obviously want to see them and say hi, but visiting every weekend and wanting to spend significant amounts of time with the post-game could really start to cramp their style. I guess you leave it up to the kid?

The school’s cost of attendance expenses should include parent’s airfare, hotels, food and admission ticket. You do you OP.

Anonymous wrote:There is a crowd on DCUM that wears uninvolvement in their children's' lives as a badge of honor.
textbook example here.

Not being able to attend your child's college activities does not mean you're uninvolved. Go to the football games or whatever games and enjoy yourself. There's nothing wrong with it.

There is a crowd on DCUM that wears uninvolvement in their children's' lives as a badge of honor.
textbook example here.

Life is short. If time and money aren't an issue, why not? I'd be careful to not to interrupt/interfere with his social life. My kid was a pitcher. I tried to make every game he started. No regrets.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid going away to college is a great opportunity/time for you to pick up new hobbies, skills, or friendships!

Clearly you don't have an athlete or you were one of the crappy parents who was MIA for their games.

My kids college coach is so irritated with the over
involvement parents at the college level. Find something else to do with yourself then piss off your kids couch.

So this would mean there are no spectators at whatever sport that your kid maybe plays.

Lol. There are parents they're every single game all over the place. Whether the kid plays 0 minutes or the entire game. Honestly, no one really cares but it is a very very different development than when I played college sports. I doubt my parents saw a single game.

I’d likely pick two games to attend.

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Anonymous wrote:Assume your son’s college is a plane ride away, as are all the away games. Does one or both parents fly out to watch the game and pay for hotels?

Trying to think ahead here for next year

That sounds insane to even consider.

Explain?

For the sake of discussion, assume that our son is the last to leave the nest, so there’s no teenagers at home. We do have a dog, but my sister will happily take that dog for the weekend so pet sitting isn’t a problem.

We can pretty easily afford plane tickets and hotels if we plan well in advance and select economy flights

It's just anti sport trolls. I couldn't imagine not going to every game possible. And football makes it relatively easy with (mostly) Saturday games and relatively few games compared to other sports. Basketball or baseball would be much tougher to go to all of the games.

Wrong. I posted above and am 100% pro sport. My kids have been year round athletes since they were toddlers (same sport) and I maybe missed 2 games ever. I still think it’s crazy to go to every game in HS.

Sorry…in college

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Anonymous wrote:Assume your son’s college is a plane ride away, as are all the away games. Does one or both parents fly out to watch the game and pay for hotels?

Trying to think ahead here for next year

That sounds insane to even consider.

Explain?

For the sake of discussion, assume that our son is the last to leave the nest, so there’s no teenagers at home. We do have a dog, but my sister will happily take that dog for the weekend so pet sitting isn’t a problem.

We can pretty easily afford plane tickets and hotels if we plan well in advance and select economy flights

It's just anti sport trolls. I couldn't imagine not going to every game possible. And football makes it relatively easy with (mostly) Saturday games and relatively few games compared to other sports. Basketball or baseball would be much tougher to go to all of the games.

Wrong. I posted above and am 100% pro sport. My kids have been year round athletes since they were toddlers (same sport) and I maybe missed 2 games ever. I still think it’s crazy to go to every game in HS.