Anonymous
Post 10/20/2025 18:57     Subject: Mood swings or rage
You could get along with my husband. He loses temper very easily, implies that I hide apples from him, and most of the time acts impulsively.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2025 18:55     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:I am 43 and over weight at 5'3". I tend to lose temper and start verbally attacking my bf and get defensive when we are discussing something. Not sure what is going on but a small discussion suddenly turns aggressive and I tend to leave the situation, house or shut-down. Then, I feel bad about it and see how sweet he is. Got tests done with my endocrinologist and OBGYN and they don't think I am in peri-menopause. Is this normal for this age? I also have Hashimoto, type 2 and ADHD and had them for a while.


Could you have Graves’ disease? Hyperthyroid? This was my symptom plus tremors and high heart rate
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2025 18:40     Subject: Mood swings or rage
The combined effects of thyroid medication and SSRIs are very severe, especially for sex drive and mood swings. This is something that you need to watch very carefully otherwise the balance would go off.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2025 09:25     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP, Op said that she has Hashimoto which means lower TSH or hypo thyroidism. ADHD and other anxiety could cause a lot of issues in handling rage.


I know, I had that, and I was hyPER-thyroid at first, then hyPO. Fluctuations can happen.


Oh boy! How often you should be checking that and is that the main reason behind rage?


I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's in my late 20s, and I had no rage, but extreme anxiety and panic. I think that some people express the same inner disturbance as anger, but I'm not one of them. The literature says anxiety/irritability. And then I was diagnosed with Grave's disease in my late 30s, another thyroid disease. I fluctuate enormously for no reason that any of my doctors have ever been able to understand. It's so weird. I know plenty of people with thyroid issues who don't fluctuate like I do, so perhaps you don't. I need to check 3-4 times a year. The last two times I had bloodwork done, my TSH was above 4, and then 3 months later, below 1. Same lab. I don't get it! My dose of Synthroid remains the same, I eat the same thing at the same time every day... but since I'm now in my 40s with perimenopause, I wonder whether hormonal fluctuations are impacting my thyroid hormones.

Anyway. It's complicated. I hope you find a solution.


PP, how did you manage the anxiety and panic? I take levothroxyine and seeings some of these effects. I am already on Lexapro but anxiety increased with thyroid medication.
Anonymous
Post 10/18/2025 15:47     Subject: Mood swings or rage
are HRTs expensive to get? I don't have very good insurance so checking if they would cover it.
Anonymous
Post 10/17/2025 08:08     Subject: Mood swings or rage
I also started rage at 46 and got on HRT (mainly for hot flashes, lack of sleep, joint pain, etc). It went away almost immediately.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 21:50     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:IME, the emotional roller coaster, especially with rage or increasing anxiety and/or anxiety that feels like rage, is the first stage. AND the first treatment is usually an anti-anxiety med. An SNRI - v SSRI - is also indicated to help with headaches and night sweats.

The SNRI probably saved my marriage and definitely saved my sanity. The HRT came in much later (7 years?) when I developed joint pain, hot flashes.


what age did it start for you, pp?


37.

This post has taken a weird turn.


43 is the right age when perimenopause starts whether endocrinologist says or not. Very difficult to control thyroid and in my case tests were required every second month.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 21:30     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Go see a doctor
Either way you need meds and help.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 20:45     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Just to clarify, you’re saying your aggression started a year ago? How did you handle conflict before last year? Do you only become aggressive with your BF or are you that way with anyone?
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 20:36     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:IME, the emotional roller coaster, especially with rage or increasing anxiety and/or anxiety that feels like rage, is the first stage. AND the first treatment is usually an anti-anxiety med. An SNRI - v SSRI - is also indicated to help with headaches and night sweats.

The SNRI probably saved my marriage and definitely saved my sanity. The HRT came in much later (7 years?) when I developed joint pain, hot flashes.


what age did it start for you, pp?


37.

This post has taken a weird turn.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 20:00     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Op, you need to discuss this with your PCP and visit endocrinologist again.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 16:18     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:Did your partner post here today about you?


Op here. Not sure, could be. He visits DCUM quite often.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 16:12     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:Being a nasty person is not a medical Dx.


How do you have a boyfriend?
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 16:06     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being a nasty person is not a medical Dx.


PP, why are you calling OP nasty? She wants to find out more about her behavior's change and that is good. If it is medical then she can look into solutions.


Nowhere did OP say this is a behavior change.

Major kudos to OP for recognizing that she *needs* a behavior change. 43 is not too late to flip a switch and become a kind, loving, generous, forgiving person. Whether that takes meds or other medical intervention is anyone's guess.
Anonymous
Post 10/16/2025 15:50     Subject: Mood swings or rage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP, Op said that she has Hashimoto which means lower TSH or hypo thyroidism. ADHD and other anxiety could cause a lot of issues in handling rage.


I know, I had that, and I was hyPER-thyroid at first, then hyPO. Fluctuations can happen.


Oh boy! How often you should be checking that and is that the main reason behind rage?


I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's in my late 20s, and I had no rage, but extreme anxiety and panic. I think that some people express the same inner disturbance as anger, but I'm not one of them. The literature says anxiety/irritability. And then I was diagnosed with Grave's disease in my late 30s, another thyroid disease. I fluctuate enormously for no reason that any of my doctors have ever been able to understand. It's so weird. I know plenty of people with thyroid issues who don't fluctuate like I do, so perhaps you don't. I need to check 3-4 times a year. The last two times I had bloodwork done, my TSH was above 4, and then 3 months later, below 1. Same lab. I don't get it! My dose of Synthroid remains the same, I eat the same thing at the same time every day... but since I'm now in my 40s with perimenopause, I wonder whether hormonal fluctuations are impacting my thyroid hormones.

Anyway. It's complicated. I hope you find a solution.