Anonymous wrote:The mom needs to give birth to a son, wait about 6 years, and then have an epiphany that boys are obnoxious and annoying.

Anonymous wrote:I actually like the idea of the journal. You aren’t going to change her personality. Just have her write it down and you glance over it at the end of the week to make sure there is nothing major. And she’ll probably stop writing everything down pretty soon because she isn’t getting the instant little triumph of telling on someone that she’s looking for.

Anonymous wrote:If this is a public school, it’s fine to just not respond to every email from the mother. Maybe once every week or every other week said her one response saying you’ve received her messages and thank you for letting you know- that is it. She can email all she wants. But you don’t have to respond to everything.

Same goes for daughter. “Thanks for letting me know, now get back to your work.” Repeat as often as necessary. This is annoying for sure, but not a big deal that needs to involve an in person meeting or counseling

Anonymous wrote:I would ask mom to come in for a meeting and at that meeting explain that pencil tapping and playground disagreement are normal for 1st grade, and we need to help students contend with them and be resilient while also teaching them what is really important for boundary-crossing. I might also consult the counselor to get their advice or offer their services to the child to develop strategies to 1.) cope and 2.) differentiate between what is important to fight and what is just a social interaction that you want to respond to by moving/ignoring/etc...

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Anonymous wrote:I heard a standard recently that I really liked:

We tell adults to get someone OUT of trouble (they are in an unsafe situation, doing something dangerous, someone needs help, etc)

We shouldn’t tell adults to get someone IN trouble.

I think that’s a good standard for kids and perhaps you could explain that standard to your class and then to the parent as well.

No, sometimes people need to get someone else in trouble.

Assign “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” to the mom and kid. Much more accurate lesson in that.

Anonymous wrote:I teach 1st grade and I’ve encountered a problem I have never had before.

Child likes to “tattle” for everything. Obviously this is normal so we give them the tools to handle small problems on their own. Just today she reported that larlo was touching her chrombook. She let me know that she asked me to stop, and he did in fact stop. She insists on still telling me anyway. Unfortunately mom now is reporting on these little “tattles” to me. After school and email came about different student touched her backpack. Mom acknowledges that none of these things are a major concern and just normal kid stuff but she has promised her DD that she will always tell me anything she feels like needs to be shared with me. I get multiple emails a week about kids tapping pencils, chasing her on the playground, and even one email that said “larla said larlo called her a mean name but she cannot remember what it was.”

Ive talked to mom about helping her handle these problems on her own, and she said she really appreciates that but she wants to always give larla “the benefit of the doubt.”

Anonymous wrote:The mom needs to give birth to a son, wait about 6 years, and then have an epiphany that boys are obnoxious and annoying.

Anonymous wrote:Just say out loud in front of the class for all to hear "Nobody likes a tattle tale! Go sit down!"

Anonymous wrote:Just say out loud in front of the class for all to hear "Nobody likes a tattle tale! Go sit down!"