Anonymous
Post 10/13/2025 08:41     Subject: Re:Do I tell his GF?

I think if she hasn’t figured out who he is in 6 years there is nothing you can do to convince her. This is a ten issue and you don’t need to get involved. Just block and move on.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2025 00:46     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Well as someone who was the GF who reached out to the woman my ex was cheating with, I am forever grateful for her honest, kind reply. We didn’t stay in touch and there was no drama. But I will forever appreciate the clarity she gave me as my ex was a lying @sshole.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 23:00     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You could write back and say:

"I do not recognize your name. I am no longer in contact with (guy). Please respect my privacy."

+1.


No. No need to say anything. Block the number.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 22:58     Subject: Re:Do I tell his GF?

He sounds scary. You have no idea who this person is, do not engage. Block the number and honestly, I'd be very aware of my surroundings. The story about the cashier sounds stalker-ish and insane.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 22:22     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Block and ignore.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 21:46     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:You could write back and say:

"I do not recognize your name. I am no longer in contact with (guy). Please respect my privacy."

+1.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 21:32     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

I would be worried it's him, testing you.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 21:29     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Block her.

You have no idea who this person is.


THIS
Your responsibility is to protect yourself. You don’t know who that woman is. She could be lying. She could be crazy and if you confirm you had a relationship with him, she could come after you.

Rule 1: Don’t respond to strangers’ messages.


Yep. Not your circus, not your monkeys
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 21:26     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell the truth, tell her exact dates as near as you can, and explain the reason why you left and your fear that he's a violent person. Obviously note that you were not aware he had another girlfriend! Legally, you owe her nothing, but morally, you have a duty of care.

Wrong. How do you know she is the GF? How do you know this isn’t a scammer?

Do you really share all the details of your life with a random stranger who messages you?


You seem to be spamming the thread. I don't agree with you. What would a scammer get from concocting such a story? Nothing.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 20:57     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Block her.

You have no idea who this person is.


THIS
Your responsibility is to protect yourself. You don’t know who that woman is. She could be lying. She could be crazy and if you confirm you had a relationship with him, she could come after you.

Rule 1: Don’t respond to strangers’ messages.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 20:47     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:Tell the truth, tell her exact dates as near as you can, and explain the reason why you left and your fear that he's a violent person. Obviously note that you were not aware he had another girlfriend! Legally, you owe her nothing, but morally, you have a duty of care.


Yes, do that…light the fuse….and watch it blow up in your face. Block her and go on with your life and don’t get caught up in someone else’s drama. Yes, the guys is a scum bag but she already knows it.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 19:58     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Do not respond. Block her. And move on with your life. I never respond to anyone I don’t know.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 19:48     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For the people who are wary of responding to strangers, I think this is a situation where you should respond. Moral rectitude outweighs the risk. But if you're frightened, you can investigate her phone number and see whether the person it's attached to could plausibly be that man's girlfriend.

What if she is as crazy as he is? and decide to come after you for sleeping with her boyfriend? You don’t need that drama. Block her number and stay out of it.


If she's actually been with that guy for 6 years, she knows him better than OP does.
If OP realized he was violent after just 6 weeks, do you honestly believe she didn't notice it in 6 years?
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 19:43     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:For the people who are wary of responding to strangers, I think this is a situation where you should respond. Moral rectitude outweighs the risk. But if you're frightened, you can investigate her phone number and see whether the person it's attached to could plausibly be that man's girlfriend.

What if she is as crazy as he is? and decide to come after you for sleeping with her boyfriend? You don’t need that drama. Block her number and stay out of it.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2025 19:41     Subject: Do I tell his GF?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think l would tell her you dated him for 6 weeks x months ago. You were the one who broke it off. You didn’t know he had a girlfriend.

All true facts. Why not help her with information?


BC it never ends .. Then things gets weird.
Who wants to be a part of or responsible for that ?


Np. How do you it won't end? If she keeps contacting you just ignore after you have given the info.

How would you feel if u were the girlfriend? You can tell her that you are afraid of his temper