Anonymous wrote:Yes it’s weird. You heard about it so quickly by several people. Don’t send a card.

Be quietly flattered.

Exactly. Hilarious the people were trying to say this isn’t weird when a half dozen people reached out to her within two hours of the birth to tell her about it. That’s proof. It’s extremely uncommon and odd. There’s precisely zero chance in hell I would ever name my son the same name as my college boyfriend. That’s all you need to know.

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself-it’s probably his wife’s grandma’s name.

Sure, sure. There were a lot of Tragedeighs in that generation.

My family has a tradition of giving kids their grandparents names as middle names going back several generations.

I’ve got two kids both of whom we have one of their grandparent names as middle names.

One of those names is also the name of one of my DH’s exs. We knew that, but we decided to continue the family tradition anyway.

Oh, the craziness that ensued. She literally called DHto ask him if our daughter’s name was a sign he still loved her!

Don’t assume everything is about you.

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Anonymous wrote:I named my daughter after my roommate’s cat. So it could be weirder.

I kind of love this. What is the name?

I’ll just say it was a name that was more common in the late 80s and deserved a revival, and that it wasn’t even a living cat- it was her childhood cat that she’d told stories about. Roommate was a random Craigslist find who became a dear friend and she thought it was hilarious that I had carried her cat’s name with her all those years. DD loves cats and her name’s origin story.

We do not share this story beyond the 3 of us. Don’t tell DH.

Tell us the name

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Anonymous wrote:He and his wife just probably like your uncommon name.

She probably doesn't know it's his ex's name.

+ 1

I made friends with a coworker. I left that job and we lost contact. She emailed me out of the blue a decade later. I had named one of my DDs her name. I loved the name and had nothing but positive associations with it, so even though I didn’t name my DD in honor of my coworker, coworker should be flattered. In an odd coincidence, this same former coworker and I had each had girl-girl twins. She named one of her DDs the same name I had used as a middle name for my DD who had this coworker’s first name. If you could follow that, kudos!

You're 28. Move on from college.

Everything is not all about you. 🙄

His wife probably picked the name. Does she even know you?

Anonymous wrote:Something similar happened to me. I figured out that his wife and I have the same ethnic background, and I share a name with the wife’s mother. So his dd was named after his mil, who happens to have the same unusual name I do.

Don’t overthink it. Guys are also stupid, and don’t have the same attachment to symbolism that we do.

+1 my DH wanted to name our daughter after a Catholic Saint he liked. It was the SAME name as his high school girlfriend, so I said no. Admittedly it’s a common name, but he clearly had not thought about hat connection when I brought up my objection. He also didn’t want the name anymore

Something similar happened to me. I figured out that his wife and I have the same ethnic background, and I share a name with the wife’s mother. So his dd was named after his mil, who happens to have the same unusual name I do.

Don’t overthink it. Guys are also stupid, and don’t have the same attachment to symbolism that we do.

Anonymous wrote:I named my daughter after my roommate’s cat. So it could be weirder.

I kind of love this. What is the name?

Anonymous wrote:I heard, through a half dozen friends within about 2 hours of the birth, that my boyfriend of 3 years in college gave his newborn daughter the same name as mine. My name is not common. We are 28.

That is weird, right?

I am 51 and my hs boyfriend did this and he dm’d me on FB in 2007 and told me! I think it’s sweet and flattering honestly.

No one cares. Do you ever see this guy? Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, he could just really like the name and yes, maybe it has pleasant connotations for him, but I wouldn’t read too much more into it.

Yes, do not overthink it.