Anonymous wrote:An anniversary is between the two people.

I hate when people wish me a happy anniversary.

It is between myself and my DH. I don't need an anniversary to tell me we have a fabulous marriage.

They are just Hallmark words...

It is between my DH and me. Why do so many people get this wrong, and why is everyone afraid of the word "me"? You just sound stupid saying/writing it this way.

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Anonymous wrote:She wants to feel like her marriage is less of a train wreck. Tell her you’re sorry. Also ask her how she’s doing and if she’s ok, beside she doesn’t seem happy with Larlo.

Not OP, but I will certainly not apologize or follow up with anyone who screams at me.

I'm not the PP but another person who suggested OP could, if she wanted to, consider that her friend may be suffering in her marriage and reach out kindly to say she was sorry her friend's feelings were hurt.

I don't apologize when I'm not sorry, and I don't tolerate being screamed at, but I also acknowledge that sometimes people aren't at their best and it may be nice to treat them with kindness rather than condemnation in those moments. I'm not condoning what the friend did at all, but as someone who was yelled at by a friend once who I then found out was deeply struggling in her personal life, I've realized that everything isn't always about me and sometimes people deserve some grace.

Anonymous wrote:A friend constantly screams at her husband even in public. It’s annoying. So their anniversary was this past weekend and I didn’t wish her a happy anniversary. Now she is angry with me. “WHY DIDN’T YOU WISH ME A HAPPY ANNIVERSARY??” Why would I?

I don’t know any of my friends anniversaries. Why are you acquainted with such an unpleasant person anyways?

Anonymous wrote:I believe this because my in-laws are like this, always texting me reminders about random extended family anniversaries.

+1. My mom is like this. I'm not celebrating everyone's anniversary. If you happen to invite me to a milestone anniversary party or post about it I'll congratulate you but I'm not saving it in my calendar as a reminder to call or text. That's a ridiculous expectation.

Also my parents had a terrible marriage but they'd force us to celebrate it as kids.

I feel like folks in terrible marriages look for that outside validation and assume others want and need the same.

She's lashing out at you op.
You've got nothing to apologize for. Do. Don't at most respond with " I hope you and X had a lovely day."

I believe this because my in-laws are like this, always texting me reminders about random extended family anniversaries.

Anonymous wrote:That is so weird. The only anniversary I know by heart is mine. Even my siblings I sometimes forget exactly what day they got married

+1, One sib is March? One is Sept?

Anonymous wrote:She wants to feel like her marriage is less of a train wreck. Tell her you’re sorry. Also ask her how she’s doing and if she’s ok, beside she doesn’t seem happy with Larlo.

Not OP, but I will certainly not apologize or follow up with anyone who screams at me.