Anonymous wrote:Sounds like it is a social activity for them and you are panicking and thinking that it might be fun to make dinner together on that one night because you are feeling like they are starting to prioritize friends over family time. Unfortunately you don't have much control over this and teens don't really want to stay home every night and cook dinner while having family sing-a-longs or whatever you are thinking might be ideal. I would let it go.

Spot on. Let your kids grow up. Make Sunday night family dinner night and you start looking into hobbies for yourself.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like it is a social activity for them and you are panicking and thinking that it might be fun to make dinner together on that one night because you are feeling like they are starting to prioritize friends over family time. Unfortunately you don't have much control over this and teens don't really want to stay home every night and cook dinner while having family sing-a-longs or whatever you are thinking might be ideal. I would let it go.

+1
Stop trying to control things.

They're having fun, with friends, off screens, doing good things, and maintaining grades.

If you stop YL or anything else simply bc you want to "have dinner together" then they will resent you and be mad.

I dont see a problem except you . There are tons of parents who would love to have your "problem".

Anonymous wrote:Grades are fine but they do seem really tired in the mornings

That's normal.

Anonymous wrote:I see the anti-Christian posters have found the thread.

I'm sorry for those of you who had bad youth group and/or Young Life experiences (especially anyone who experienced abuse in the church).

That doesn't mean they're all like this or that those responses are relevant to OP.

I see the Jumps On Every Thread Even Tangentially Related to Christianity And Pretends To Be Persecuted poster has found the thread. 🙄

Sick sick sick this young life

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see the anti-Christian posters have found the thread.

I'm sorry for those of you who had bad youth group and/or Young Life experiences (especially anyone who experienced abuse in the church).

That doesn't mean they're all like this or that those responses are relevant to OP.

Stop with the Anit Christian crap.

Young Life is a breeding ground for sexual abuse. That has been determined in more than one court of law under oath hand on bible kind of things. OP is the one that put this on social media and asked what she should do.

OP is letting her kids go to a place that affects her children's actual education. Who does this? Education is the priority not a religious youth group, especially one that has quite a few scandals and spreads hate towards others.

+ a million, not that it matters as you to will have your post deleted.

Sounds like it is a social activity for them and you are panicking and thinking that it might be fun to make dinner together on that one night because you are feeling like they are starting to prioritize friends over family time. Unfortunately you don't have much control over this and teens don't really want to stay home every night and cook dinner while having family sing-a-longs or whatever you are thinking might be ideal. I would let it go.

Anonymous wrote:I see the anti-Christian posters have found the thread.

I'm sorry for those of you who had bad youth group and/or Young Life experiences (especially anyone who experienced abuse in the church).

That doesn't mean they're all like this or that those responses are relevant to OP.

Stop with the Anit Christian crap.

Young Life is a breeding ground for sexual abuse. That has been determined in more than one court of law under oath hand on bible kind of things. OP is the one that put this on social media and asked what she should do.

OP is letting her kids go to a place that affects her children's actual education. Who does this? Education is the priority not a religious youth group, especially one that has quite a few scandals and spreads hate towards others.

Anonymous wrote:I see the anti-Christian posters have found the thread.

I'm sorry for those of you who had bad youth group and/or Young Life experiences (especially anyone who experienced abuse in the church).

That doesn't mean they're all like this or that those responses are relevant to OP.

Ha! All the critical posts were deleted, leaving the OP with the answers that she wants to hear in the echo chamber she chooses to live in.

Before this post is deleted, I will just say that I have too many friends of both gender who were subjected to various forms of abuse in religious youth groups, Christian mostly but also Jewish and new-agey cult-adjacent religions. It's not an anti-Christian thing to say watch out if you send your kids to these activities.

*poof*

disappeared just like all the other critical posts.

I see the anti-Christian posters have found the thread.

I'm sorry for those of you who had bad youth group and/or Young Life experiences (especially anyone who experienced abuse in the church).

That doesn't mean they're all like this or that those responses are relevant to OP.

My 11 year old gets home at 930 twice weekly, and 830 twice weekly as well. I imagine in a few years if its 10pm once or twice a week I won't mind. This has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with your household schedules, priorities, personalities, etc. If you wouldn't let them participate in a sport until 10pm, it seems reasonable to also not allow church events until 10pm. I dont think the substance of the event matters so much as the schedule you agree to keep.

From a former young life leader I say stick with the church activities especially if you have a high quality denominational youth group. I love the idea of young life and what they’re trying to do but it’s really unstructured from a safety perspective with too many scavenger hunts around town in cars with adult leaders you don’t know, lack of parents around ect. Too much room for things to go wrong whereas churches usually have stricter safety policies in place.

Our church has a strong youth group and my kid loves her friends there. We don't go to everything. I would not send my kid to a Monday night activity until 10 pm no matter what the topic. I do not send her to all the weekend activities, if we have other stuff going on or just need a break.

Either pick your kids up early or pull them out of the activities that are causing problems.