Don't creep.

Anonymous wrote:If I want to be approached, I'll go to a cozy pub and get an appetizer/drink alone at the bar.

Me too. I also go to a cozy bar or club to dance salsa. Usually they have live band. Not too much into TJ music.

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He struck up a convo and then when the train got there he asked what stop i was heading to and if I wanted to sit together/continue the convo.

Is he a really outgoing person in general? Did he ever describe to you how he felt that day?

I'd describe him as a reserved social butterfly. He is never the center of attention or life of the party, but he can shoot the sh-t with anyone about almost any topic and always leaves wherever he goes with new friends. It was a very cold winter day and I was shivering like crazy waiting for the train because I was in a work dress + pea coat + flats and he made some joke about it being a good thing i dressed for the weather and I joked back that I was dismayed because my humble hardworking parents paid good money for 14 years of catholic school skirts to permanently harden my legs to the cold, but I was apparently turning wimpy in my old age. He laughed and said he was also a reformed catholic school kid and we started chatting.

Stairwells in parking garages

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He struck up a convo and then when the train got there he asked what stop i was heading to and if I wanted to sit together/continue the convo.

Is he a really outgoing person in general? Did he ever describe to you how he felt that day?

Anonymous wrote:OP, DCUM is not the best place to ask. The majority of DCUM users are middle-aged women who are frustrated in life, understandably, because they are juggling parenthood and marriage and careers.

The only difference between "looking like a creep" and "being interesting and approachable" is going to be subjective and will depend on the woman in question. If you're handsome and have good social skills, you will face a lot less judgement, surprise, surprise! Your intent and good character don't actually matter in those few minutes, even though all these women think they do.

lol take it from a man to believe that this depends on the man being handsome and then discounting the importance of social skills. Yes dummy, you need to have good social skills to pick up women. Sorry you find that hard to swallow.

The best is a setting where people are more normally expected to be open to meeting other people - ie a bar, concert, meetup group, or party.

otherwise you MUST have the social skills to perceive whether the woman is open to a conversation and more. I’m not going to say not to talk to women in Starbucks or the gym but you must be able to read the room.

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He struck up a convo and then when the train got there he asked what stop i was heading to and if I wanted to sit together/continue the convo.

Anonymous wrote:Men in a book club!? Laughable.

That's because book clubs only want to read and discuss vapid female slop. Men would rather set themselves on fire than read the latest paranormal romance.

Women don’t want to be approached. They prefer to complain about being alone since they don’t approach either.

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Do. Not.

Please don't.

So uncomfortable.

Men in a book club!? Laughable.

Depends on the age but in general join a club or a team that has mixed genders like pickle ball, softball, social dance, or even book clubs where you can get to know eachother at least superficially before you ask them out. Also lots of churches have singles mixers that might be worth checking into.