Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

Are you still married to this person?

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

Anonymous wrote:Right now you are the red flag. Take time to work on yourself and heal.

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

Anonymous wrote:I need some dcum thoughts here.

I met someone a few weeks after my divorce. We met organically before I was even thinking of dating. They were also recently divorced (same day oddly). We connected as friends for 2 months before he asked me on a date and we've been together for a year now. He has been absolutely wonderful- communicative, thoughtful, very smart, emotionally intelligent, funny, reliable, attentive, interesting, a true friend, absolutely mindblowing sex. He's also a very high earner and has treated me to fun events, spas, long weekends away. But you'd never know and he's super handy, down to earth, loves to thrift for second hand treasures to upcycle. He's a great cook, gardens, is close with his extended family, has nice, interesting, stable long term friends. His friends wives have all been kind and welcoming. His mom and I really hit it off.

There's some minor annoyances at times- he leaves the toilet seat up often, leaves kitchen cabinets open, is usually 5-15 min late for things. Obviously those are nothing in the grand scheme.

I just keep thinking something has to go wrong. I was mentally preparing to enter the dating app world some day and have to go through the gauntlet for years to find someone decent.

Am I crazy? Can this happen?

Anonymous wrote:I need some dcum thoughts here.

I met someone a few weeks after my divorce. We met organically before I was even thinking of dating. They were also recently divorced (same day oddly). We connected as friends for 2 months before he asked me on a date and we've been together for a year now. He has been absolutely wonderful- communicative, thoughtful, very smart, emotionally intelligent, funny, reliable, attentive, interesting, a true friend, absolutely mindblowing sex. He's also a very high earner [/[b]b]and has treated me to fun events, spas, long weekends away. But you'd never know and he's super handy, down to earth, loves to thrift for second hand treasures to upcycle. He's a great cook, gardens, is close with his extended family, has nice, interesting, stable long term friends. His friends wives have all been kind and welcoming. His mom and I really hit it off.

There's some minor annoyances at times- he leaves the toilet seat up often, leaves kitchen cabinets open, is usually 5-15 min late for things. Obviously those are nothing in the grand scheme.

I just keep thinking something has to go wrong. I was mentally preparing to enter the dating app world some day and have to go through the gauntlet for years to find someone decent.

Am I crazy? Can this happen?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So… what’s the issue? Something must have prompted you to write the post, but I can’t tell what it is.

I guess its just the constant posts on dcum, reddit, etc about how theres no good people left after divorce, how the dating scene is a sh-t show. Ive had a very trying last several years and it feels like how could something so wonderful happen to me?

Anonymous wrote:You have the classic "Is he good enough? Can I do better?" mentality going on that many women, and often men now, have when re-entering the dating field.

It will ruin your relationships. You are not special, you are not a beautiful snowflake. You have many annoying features as well. Stop being so picky.

Anonymous wrote:So… what’s the issue? Something must have prompted you to write the post, but I can’t tell what it is.