Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
What kinds of HS is he from and is he unhooked except strong academics? Willing to share GPA and score ranges? Thx
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:this is why i want them to ed, we will be full pay no matter what, and due to this why not use to our advantage
There is also a clear full pay advantage on the waitlist(I understand the torture of having it go on even longer but I know a kid who was going to UCSD and ended up at Stanford off the WL this year) and possibly in RD as well.
I don't doubt that this happened, but it is extremely unlikely that someone gets off of the waitlist at places like Stanford - the yield rate is crazy high and there are many people on the WL. For each of these kids who win the lottery, there are thousands for whom the WL is just a soft rejection. In other words, the chances of this are low - even lower than getting in RD.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:this is why i want them to ed, we will be full pay no matter what, and due to this why not use to our advantage
There is also a clear full pay advantage on the waitlist(I understand the torture of having it go on even longer but I know a kid who was going to UCSD and ended up at Stanford off the WL this year) and possibly in RD as well.
Anonymous wrote:I'm the high stats poster from a few posts down. I'd also like to know the answer to this question. Does ED matter for UVA or other in-state flagships when student is at the top of scattergram stats?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
What major?
found the PP results by searching here - pasted below. link at end.
First off good luck to you and your student-its tough, there just aren't enough spots and you have no way of knowing how many spots are really available (legacies+athletes+institutional priorities)
My son: Chem Major, 1540 SAT (1 take), 3.98/4.46 GPA, Max rigor 10 AP's (all 5's) and the rest honors/Advanced topic, StuCo all 4 years (inc ASB Pres), national awards for debate, volunteer math/science tutor for First Gen kids, theater (lead roles) and music (competition a cappella team) and research submitted for publication.
He didn't ED-really hated the idea of binding to a school and never knowing what his choices might have been.
Accepted: Cal, Columbia (he is attending), Rice, Williams, Amherst, UMich (EA), UVA (EA) Lehigh, UCSD
Waitlisted: Brown, UCLA, Tulane, CMU, UChicago
Denied: Harvard, Duke, Yale, Tufts
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/180/1286168.page#30551370
(this post is actually SUPER helpful. just found it.)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:this is why i want them to ed, we will be full pay no matter what, and due to this why not use to our advantage
then you should. its a huge miss on your part.
RD is a bloodbath for oversubscribed majors at T20 (engineering, CS, business, and increasingly some majors like math/bio/pre-med).
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
What major?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
This is great for your kid but people should not expect this kind of result in RD. This would be a true unicorn situation.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
This is great for your kid but people should not expect this kind of result in RD. This would be a true unicorn situation.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards
He ended up at an Ivy, also got into to Rice, Williams, Amherst, Cal, UCLA, UMich Honors, UVA so he was super happy he didn't ED. However, Jan-March were pretty painful, especially the pressure to EDII. That was worse than the EDI decision frankly, the colleges nag them to convert to it, the school counselors pressure them and they have friends who are basically able to fully check out on 2nd semester senior year while they are still totally tortured by it.
Look hard at your schools data with him in thinking through this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DC was very similar unhooked high stats kid but with stronger EC's (leadership, couple of national awards). He did not want to ED, had a pretty allergic reaction to it. The discussions around this with him were the most interesting of the college process. Turns out my kid has a totally different risk profile (at least at this age) than his parents. He valued regret minimization (i.e. never knowing what could have been and feeling that he settled) over risk minimization of ED and getting in to say UChicago.
I think the kid has to make the final call but have a serious discussion with them using the negative outcomes of each path, i.e. you get in to your ED but then your friend with lower stats gets in RD to your real dream school or you don't ED and then everyone else gets in and is done, your spend 4 more months in limbo and end up at a school no better than where you probably could have gotten in ED?
spot on!--you are absolutely right regret vs maximization--where did he end up? ps kid is president of two stem clubs that are very active, but no national awards